Not a very nice mother-in-law??

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"My In-Laws Are Loaded, And We Never Asked For Anything": This Mother-In-Law Asked For Money For The Gifts She Gave To Her Newborn Grandchild

Getting pregnant and being able to give birth is one of life's greatest blessings. However, sometimes, with these exciting moments in life comes unwarranted behavior from some family members, like a mother-in-law.

She wrote, "The title says most of it. MIL kept track of all the expenses we 'accrued' in the hospital for having our baby. We thought the meals and supplies were kind gestures because my in-laws are freaking LOADED, and we NEVER asked for anything.

Come to find out, she Venmo requested it all to be paid back the day we got home (and discovered that we would have to go back to the PICU for our daughter's complications). We’ve since discovered what a narcissist is, and she is a full-blown narcissist and addicted to spending money for herself. It really hurt us, especially since I was just laid off (since then, I got a new job). It was basically like I gave her my credit card to spend at her discretion and had no idea. Am I overreacting, or should I still be upset at her?" asked the OP.

Over 100 people chimed in, relating to this story and sharing their advice on what this OP should do.

My MIL did similar with a Christmas gift. She bought us, at the time, the newest and biggest TV. She sent me a message later that she needed me to pay at least half of it back as it was a huge expense and manipulated me into believing that everyone (her, FIL, my husband, and me) was on the same page. Long story short, four months later, my husband asked me what these charges were and was furious. He confronted his mom, returned the TV, and paid back the rest of the amount that was owed. I told her we would no longer accept 'gifts' like this. FIL was surprised by this, too; it ended up being a whole thing (and yes, she blamed me for it).

Bottom line: Do not pay her. Send a group text with you, her, her FIL, and your husband to let her know that you will NOT reimburse her for 'gifts' and that no 'gifts' will ever be accepted from her. I'd also return anything you can. Depending on how this goes, I'd also send her a list of "services" and their charges if she wants to visit you and your baby."