It's as though they never learned the important lesson that was to be learned. Perhaps they don't believe there is a lesson to be learned.

I haven't listened to a Hmong story in awhile, but I remember one from a few months back about a Hmong guy who became homeless because of his drug addictions and gangster life. One thing that I did not hear from him is an apology to his parents.
He began his story by saying that he came from a very large family of 14 children. He was a middle child and therefore, only received his brothers' hand-me downs. He'd be the last to wear them because they were too tattered to pass to his younger brothers. So only the oldest and youngest sons got new clothes. His life of crime started after he begged his parents for a pair of Jordans. His parents didn't work but as a child, he didn't understand this.
Needless to say, his life of drug and crimes led to jail time, two failed marriages, two children from each marriage, and homelessness.
This guy blaming his parents for the way he is when he can't give ANYTHING to his two children.
Maybe he should've learned that parents try their best.