Personally, I have no problems with woo here as time goes, I feel like I

[theking]

..love my wife even more:

Women Who've Been Married For 10+ Years Are Sharing How They Wish Their Partners Would Woo Them After All This Time, And Men Should Pay Attention
If you've ever wondered how people maintain a successful marriage for decades, it's definitely because the wife is happy.
A woman hugs a smiling man from behind as he looks at a photo. They appear happy and content
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"Happy wife = Happy life," right?

But how exactly should husbands keep their wives happy? Interestingly, in one Reddit thread (which you can see here), women in long-term marriages shared the things they wished their husbands would do to keep the spark alive, and let's just say all men should be taking notes.
Here are 15 different women's perspectives:
1. "My husband is very romantic in a lot of ways, which I appreciate since I'm not the most romantic person in the world myself, but I do sometimes wish he opened doors for me and held my hand more often."

"He really only opens doors when we're dressed up for an 'occasion' or when I'm holding stuff, and I am almost always the hand-holding initiator. I absolutely LOVE it on the rare occasion when he initiates it (and I always make a point of telling him how happy it makes me)."

–jaelythe4781

2. "All I wanted was to feel safe and loved back. I don’t want diamonds or fancy trips, only affection and to know I was being thought of and appreciated and actually wanted."
–Practical_Love4615

3. "Hopefully, the same ways that they've been doing so for the entirety of that 10-plus year relationship – being thoughtful, considerate, loving, and excited to spend our lives together. This is an ongoing daily thing for me within a healthy and successful relationship. We're always making it clear to each other that we love and desire each other."
"For us, this isn't something that requires big performative acts or anything like that. It's the common base for everything in our lives together. Our clear joy, love, and desire in being together and wanting to make each other's lives better each day achieves this for us."

–tinfoilhattie

4. "Literally, it would be totally libido-altering if he would just actually dress up in a nice button-down without being coerced and grumbling about it."

–jcpianiste

5. "After all those responsibiliti es and kids, just take care of me while making my life easy as he does now. Also, he should approach me for intimacy and sex if I won't (I don't want to stop that, but sometimes I don't want to make the first move)."
–strictly_for_she

6. "I want him to pursue me aggressively. Like no gentle preamble, none of the exploratory questions used to identify whether I'm in the mood. Just grab me. Please do not take this as any form of encouragement to do this to a woman, unless you are specifically my husband."
–Magic_Fred

7. "Honestly, just small stuff. Like, send a random text during the day or ask me to go out for coffee like we used to. Not expecting big gifts or anything, just want to feel like he’s thinking about me sometimes."

"Even making dinner together or watching a movie without phones would be nice. Just a simple effort goes a long way after all these years."

–blondecra

8. "I wish he would acknowledge when things were important to me. Like, I get he doesn't see a difference in getting me a gift on a random day versus an anniversary, but for some reason, our anniversary doesn't feel special to me as a result."
"I sometimes feel like I don't have anything to look forward to; I just have to hope he thinks of me occasionally. He doesn't usually wrap gifts either. Just feels like minimal effort sometimes."

–rememberpianocat

9. "Umm, anything would be nice. Physical affection, compliments, planned dates, kissing, listening to me, talking to me about things deeper than his day, doing his share of the mental load..."
–thefringedmagoo

10. "Cleaning! And cleaning MY way! (We grew up in houses that had very different ideas of cleanliness. His house was borderline hoarder.)"

–mbwrose

11. "I wish he gave compliments that weren’t forced, because I pointed out that he didn’t give compliments. I wish I'd never had to point that out. I wish I could say I felt pretty or sexy or whatever because my husband was my biggest fan who was hyping me up authentically and showing me with his actions that he believed those words."
"I wish every request for the relationship wasn’t met with, 'well what about when YOU…' and instead was met with ownership and a desire to be part of a team and to work to make the relationship better and beautiful."

–gobbledegook

12. "I just had this conversation with my mother, who’s been married for 30-plus years. Here's what she wants and needs to feel pursued."
"Emotional safety, consistently. A messy house and a lack of flowers are neither here nor there. She wishes that she could go to her husband and say 'this thing is really bothering me,' and him not exploding (even on her behalf, not necessarily at her) and just being another thing she has to mitigate. It’s so ridiculously attractive for someone to apologize unprompted, to say, 'You’ve been seeming distant lately. Let’s sit down right now and talk about what you’re feeling and what I can do.' To reflect what you’re telling them, make space for your feelings, and not immediately get defensive. So yeah, she’d say 'proactively make me feel emotionally safe.'"

–utterjoy

13. "Good conversation! Active listening and showing interest in what I say/think beyond what’s directly relevant to him and our kids. He does it sometimes, but nowhere near as much as when he was still trying to woo me 11 years ago. Nothing like infatuation to make a man an avid listener!"

14. "My partner actively and conscientiousl y does things to make my life easier/take things off my plate. They regularly tell me what they like about me, surprise me with romantic gestures that are still within budget (favorite flowers, a sweet treat, make my coffee in the morning, etc.), and engage the kids in doing nice things for me."
–MADSeraphina

15. "My ex-husband loved his downtime, leaving me solely responsible for literally everything. Did I ever get the chance to have downtime like him? Nope. Would he ever switch roles with me to allow me downtime? Nope. Would he join the kids and me any time we did something in the home or outside of it? Nope. So I guess a husband who’s considerate towards my needs as well. A husband who doesn’t have to be asked."

[JonniJacko]

Men probably did all those things once to a woman but was told they were too nice...too perfect....the re's nothing to fix......lol