Dok, in all honesty I have always assumed that ALL bride/groom from Laos are gold diggers wanting nothing more than just a better life in the US with no intentions of finding love. Well, after listening and seeing what you have written, my mind has changed a bit. My mind is still set that they are still looking after their own best interest. I guess where I have changed my mind is that although they are looking at the end of that rainbow, they are also "trying" to make love work.
I personally know of many couples (mostly bride from Laos-groom from US) where the bride is really trying to make love work. I see the sadness in their eyes also. What I assume is that they feel their youth have been stolen. If I was in their shoes, I would feel the same. Yug tseem hluas thiab zoo nkauj es yug cias li yuav nom laus laus lub cev phem phem. Li hmoob hais os, pob zeb tsi phim pob ntoo.
That's good Ren. It's important for people to be a little more sympathetic towards brides from Laos because to me they are victim of life circumstances - must do what one must do to survive and others as well. In their shoes, we could be making the same choices and in our shoes, they could afford to look for love of their own choosing. Like I said, the real tragic of this entire thing is the haves and have not... where the haves are taking advantage of the have nots - hmoob tsis hlub hmoob, bottom line. That old man or woman is only thinking of one thing, themselves, who cares about ruining the life of a young man or woman. That young man or woman is only thinking of one thing, coming to a better place, providing for family behind. A give and take relationship..
. but still, tragic....hmoo
b tsis hlub hmoob, bottom line. I'm getting a little nausea if I keep going...so I'll stop.
I've hit the nail.
At the surface you may have hit the nail but if you look deeper, there's more. Tragic don't you think? Count your blessings you've lived in a country that you could afford to love the person of your own choosing, could afford to protect your children from old men/old women who doesn't have their best interest at heart, and could help them to realize their dreams/full potentials.
A pawn to tradition and survival purpose not based on love. Some are truly in it only to benefit themselves and love has little to do with it.
Yes and some cases, love can blossoms.