Because hmong culture and the hmong in law ways are too dramatic and troublesome. Why stress that lifestyle when you can skip it?
A hmong woman married to a hmong man = more expectations. More cultural expectations and understanding. More cultural abuse towards the woman. Easier to be abused by inlaws because of same background. No breaks. Automatic daughter in law slavery expectancy. Men are weaker in voicing defense for their hmong wife against their family members. Who tf would want that?!
(Speaking from experience)
See? I knew it. Came straight out of a hmong chick's mouth. Hi floaty by the way. Long time no smell ya. Did you shower today?
You know when I date hmong, I cringed to the thought of them hmong washing me, trying to make me hmong and trying to get me to wear that hmong costume. At first, I don't mind but because of our stupid media, it ruins it. The word is "
cultural appropriation"
I'm not asking her to be viet or wear our traditional "ao dai" viet dresses and eat your pho. Do what you wanna do is my answer. You be you and let me be me. Women that have the same opinions as floaty there are more out there and I'm like a pokemon trainer, trying to catch them all. Here's the thing. If she, the hmong women dating Others, the non asian, it can get uncomfortable due to the "stare" . However, if she dates me, another OTHERS but I'm still asian, no one is gonna look at us funny for asian on asian is still ok in their books. All that stigmas and dogmas and hmong cultural stuff, now she can control it as she can keep what she likes and banish what she does not like.
The funny thing is this. I know what they are getting into when they are dating me. It just that I never put them under a microscope and questioning them to what I already know. In other words, the stuff that floaty be typing up there, I just don't bring it out for a debate. If I did, it'll weaken my stance thus making me less attractive. You think a white guy or a black guy would know what floaty be talking about up there? Hell tittay no. He just doesn't know because he doesn't really care. All he knows is that he got a "china doll" so me love you long time is at play and what she gets out of it is what floaty is saying from above. Both benefits from both sides and that is how the west was won.