So, yesterday the guy that my mom had recently mentioned to me came over to see me during the evening. He was really nice and kind.
He sat down with my brother and mom while my sister in law and I was preparing dinner. My little niece started crying because she wanted to watch Nkauj Nyab in the family room, so I went and turned that movie on. Thought it would be nice for my brother the guy to watch while talking.
I came back and cooked dinner. My sister in law started to elbow me while I was rinsing the rice. I looked at her and she had her mouth open laughing at me. I looked at her and smiled.
I said, "What?"
SIL said "I don't know...but he's not my type."
I laughed quietly and said, "It's okay, everyone has their own taste, that's why you married my brother."
SIL said, "Whatever, you know what I'm talking about."
I looked at her and sigh in a way then said, "He doesn't seem so bad, yeej zoo thiab mas."
After setting the table, we all came and ate dinner. While I was scooping rice onto my plate, he forked up a chicken leg and set it in my plate. I looked at him and said "Oh, tsis ua cas. Kuv mas muab kuv xwb tau lawm. Koj kav tsis noj." He looked straight at me and smiled.
Then I suddenly thought to myself..."oh great...."
After dinner, we all sat down. I was holding to my niece sitting at the couch watching the movie while my brother and him were talking the whole time about politics and the economy.
The entire time I can sense he was looking at me from time to time and it kind of felt awkward. He probably wasn't expecting to come talk to my brother when he's here to see me. Too bad...it's just how my family is.
Suddenly...I dont' know how it happened but the conversation changed. Then my brother talking about his past life when he was still young and dating. Then the guy started talking a little bit of his family and about his brother who is dating this girl whom is a distant relatives of ours in California. Then it went on and on to the conversation about the kind of girl he likes.
I had my eyes on the tv the whole time but listening to the guy talking about how he wants someone who is going to be able to come and take control of the youth ministry and become a good niam tsev in his church and etc. He was talking about the kind of woman he wants to marry to my brother.
I turned around and looked at him and all I saw was a conceited, stubborn, who thinks he's all that with his MBA degree. It was just the most weirdest thing I've heard from a guy to my brother, given that this is the first time we've ever met.
The night was alright. I was really polite and I did talk to him for like 20 minutes at the end befor he left.
After he left...my brother and sister in law came out from their bedroom. I was still cleaning the cups. Then my brother mentioned to me this:
"That guy is a player. You're a girl so you don't know. But I'm your brother and I'm also a guy, every thing he says or mentions, I can tell you that he is a player."
I laughed at my brother and said, "That's cause when you were younger, you were also a player."
Brother, "TRUE. That is why I can tell by his words that he is a player."
I was still laughing then said, "So what did you think of him?"
Brother, "I don't like him. If you did not notice, when he walked inside our house, if you look at the way he walked, he was walking like he already own the house. The way he didn't even shake my hand, except at the end when he left. I have never seen a guy who goes see a girl and does not shake hands at first sight of their brothers or father. This guy has no manners."
I only said, "Okay."
Then my brother went on, "I purposely talk to him about politics and economy to see how well he see life. This dude, he doesn't have a clue. That means he's probably one of those person who just live day to day and has no ambitious. If you date someone like this, you're going to work your butt off. It ain't like he's a little kid, he's 29. You can even say he's 30 already. I didn't even expect him to talk about marrying a wife to do this and do that but he did. It's very disrespectful for a guy to be saying things like that in front of a a brother and the girl he's here to see. It's almost as if he's not here to see you, but to talk to me about finding a girl for him. That's really rude."
SIL said, "Yeah it's true what you're brother said. When we were dating, your brother never even get to talk to me. He just came over and talk to my dad and brothers. He only saw me when I sit down or walk in the room. He doesn't get to talk to me like that guy got to talk to you. But that's the old days, I don't know how people are now."
Funny aye...LOL.