The Need to be Right
While having dinner with my daughter the other day. We were having a disagreement regarding her actions to not share her alcohol with my drunken cousin. She quickly seem to retaliate using something I said a long time ago to another person in another situation involving the same person. She then made it about herself and how would I react if she was involved with a drunk like that. After the de-escalation, I realized some points in an argument:
1. The need to be right will make things worse. We all want to be right.
2. Pointing out someone's incorrect actions will result in escalation or retaliation.
3. In every single disagreement, to resolve the emotional complication, we should always aim for the betterment of all involved, or better yet, for their betterment. Do not aim to be right, because that will make the other person wrong. Then they will go nuts.