1. When I look for love, I don't just dive in and hoping that love comes. What I do look for are them traits that they expresses their love or acts of kindness when I am not around.
So if she has a good loving relationship with her mom or she is the babysitter of the family then to me, that shows that she is capable of loving and I am not afraid of her burning me.
As for myself, the church conditioned me so I too does not have it in me to burn anyone that I am with either. You know how the story goes with 2 convicts, one guy is hard core while the other guy has a soft spot. It is the soft guy that the victim being tied up would want to talk into so he can let them go. He does not have it in him to shoot or kill but just got lost and is caught up in the moment. He is still a genuine good guy regardless if he is a punk at times. If anything, I am that guy. Sort of like bad boy goes wrong after his good boy image got smashed by tarnishing bad women. He is tainted but he is still good and is capable of loving. Some women who knows this will want to condition him into the man that she always wanted.
Ah, the talks of love. I can smell it as I lived through it.