"To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness." --Robert Morely
There is nothing in the world that beats the feeling of falling in love and being in love! Many of us fantasize of meeting our perfect match and being swept off our feet
yet more and more of us think of relationships as a life partnership that gives us sustenance and allow us to share our selves and our love in a deep and soulful way. We long for a strong and happy unions and marriages, and home life that offers security and is sturdy enough to be the foundation for all else we do in the world.
With so many people expressing so much desire for true love, why are so many still searching? Why do many people fear love may never come? The reasons are many, and as complex as each individual who desires true love. There are two things that crop up time and time again. One is that many people tend to think magically about love without doing the practical and emotional work to draw a relationship to them
and keep it healthy and alive. And second is that many of us skip important steps to creating the relationship of their dreams by forgetting the cardinal rule of love relationships -- in order to experience genuine, mature love with another we first must love ourselves.
Your first stop on the road to romance is with You! Looking for love externally, and even finding someone who seems to adore you, can be a fleeting thing if you do not have a strong foundation of self-esteem. It is honoring of oneself that opens the door for another to truly do the same.
If you want to make a powerful statement about your readiness for love
fall in love with yourself first and ceremoniously commit yourself to yourself. Your willingness to take such a strong stand for love in your life will create miracles in all areas and will initiate you to a new way of being.
You will need ample time alone, something wonderful to wear, candle, flowers, paper or journal and pen, a mirror, music, celebratory food and libation (a glass of wine or grape juice is fine), anything else you would like to include:
- Light a candle and bring light into the room.
- Say a brief prayer: "God, please fill this place with your presence. Support me in my efforts to express my love foe self. Help me see my own worth as you see me. Amen."
- Sit down and meditate on the qualities you desire in a mate. Daydream about what you would say to that person were he or she standing before you on your wedding day.
- Write down three (or more) vows that are personally meaningful to you: "I will promise to love you through all time
I promise to love myself so that I can more fully receive your love
I adore the way I feel when I am with your
etc."
- When you feel ready, look into the mirror and connect with your own eyes and read the vows to yourself. It may be uncomfortable at first but you can transcend that. Know that your self-love vows will send a powerful message to the universe that you are ready for love!
- Celebrate your date with self with a sip of wine.
- Play the music of that you have selected.
- Dance
and feel the love.