This thread is really old and I'm wondering "where was my two cents?"
Honestly, you all...ask any woman in a strong, healthy relationship and she'll tell you that the right guy doesn't put himself in a position to lose you.
If you're feeling anxious, doubtful, strained, yadda yadda yadda...then he just isn't that into you. Period.
Men are natural hunters and do the pursuing. When they want something, they go get it. Whether it's to get into your pants or lock you down as his wife, he will make sure you have no doubts.
If he starts to pull away after love bombing you, then a commitment will probably never happen.
It's easy to become jaded and scared to date again.
Which is why the one thing you can do is to love yourself first. Easier said than done. I'll be honest about that.
Love yourself first. See the value in yourself. If a person doesn't love you when you've given your best to them, then they don't deserve you anyway.
And always remember that they lost more than you did because they lost someone who truly loved them, while you dodged a bullet.