only regions in the world that practice bride kidnapping is in eurasia/central asia. Hmong people originated there. thats why hmong traditionally use spoons, hmong play tub lub (top spin sport) and no other culture in china, southeast asia does that stuff except hmong. that's why i believe more about this theory of hmong coming from eurasia. and looking at the ancient hmong writing alphabet it looks more middle east.
I missed the point of shamanism. A lot of cultures practice shamanism, but that does not mean the practices are related. Native Americans practice shamanism too. Korean shamanism has it's roots in Siberia, Mongolia and Manchuria. Different regions practice it differently from other regions.
This topic is on the origin of the language not the origin of the people, but I supposed the two go hand in hand so I'll bite.
You can't base the origin of a people by 2 things.
1. Hmong do not traditionally use forks and spoons. Hmong do not even have a word for fork. Rawg, contratry to Hmong American beliefs, does not mean fork. It means chopsticks. If you step outside of Laos, you will notice that All Hmong uses chopsticks. From China, to Vietnam to Thailand. The only Hmong people who do not use chopsticks are those from Laos. You are the minority so your way is not the norm.
2. Every culture kidnap brides. You don't hear about it because you don't live in that culture. And just like in the Hmong culture, it's shun upon. Most of the kidnappings you're referring to is actually consensual, so it's not kidnapping, but eloping. This is thanks in to the part of Hmong ignorance in conveying this to the Western world.
3. We covered this in the Paj Ntaub Aphabet section of this forum that it's a mid to late 19th century fabrication. Here's an exert to a more scholarly article regarding actual Hmong writing history. You have to buy the book or get it at your local library if you want to read the rest.
http://www.blackwellreference.com/public/tocnode?id=g9780631214816_chunk_g978063121481610_ss1-22