Bars and Club After Marriage?

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and if you're still married, how long have you been married?  1 year? 10 years?

Have known one another for over 7+ years ishhh
Dated for about 5 years
Married for a year and counting 

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Uhhhh, she already stated that she's been going out and it's all "good"...But then again, you like to make assumptions and claims without any evidence to back it up...so nothing new.

THANK YOU!

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All you insecure married folks that don't trust your spouse, how do you control your spouse from going out? Lock him/her up? Spy on him/her every second of the day?

Here's a fact, if your spouse is going to cheat on you, it doesn't have to be at the club. It could be at your own home...

Absolutely true!

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It's is not a matter of being insecure.  The wife wanting to do her own thing, in this case go clubbing, is already a sign of cracks in the marriage.  If she goes once in a while like during her friend's b-day, wedding anniversary, etc. and it's a one time thing, it may be fine.  The question then becomes, what if she goes on a regular basis, what then?

Yes, agreed on regular basis without your spouse spells trouble in a marriage.
Which already stated I don't.

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The place doesn't matter but the person does. If your spouse wants to cheat on you, it can happen anywhere even at a church...

In the OP's situation, her husband is cool with it so there's nothing wrong with that. I rather have a wife that's honest with me than one that lies to me so she can do things behind my back..

Exactly!
Yes and we came to an agreement, and he did realize that I never go without an occasion.  But he is now more willingly to go out with me too and not stay home all the time.  With that also being said he does get that I can be independent but I am always honest with him and never would do anything to jepordize our marriage. 

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Nope, just depends on the person and his/her purpose..

In the OP's case, her husband doesn't want to go but gave her his blessings so that's actually better than cases where one spouse lies to the other so he/she can cheat. And again, it doesn't even have to be at a club..

Yep, it's like I mentioned to him.
There are girls who will go and not tell their spouse at all.. I would not want that as to why I will tell him where and when and with whom.
Yes, he admits sometimes it does bug him that I go, because then it leaves him home with nothing to do but I explained to him that he doesn't have to stay home when I am out, that he can come with and if he chooses not to then he's always more then welcome to hang out with his friends.

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you know that flirting happens in other places besides the club right?  so many immature hmong boys in here who don't know about human interactions.

YES for real!
I went out to eat with a sister in law and still managed to get hit on without even trying.
So yes guys it can happen anywhere!

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YES for real!
I went out to eat with a sister in law and still managed to get hit on without even trying.
So yes guys it can happen anywhere!

the club is just more a comfortable setting to get girls' numbers. lol

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Perception is reality. You can't deny his nor can he deny yours. So what are you mad about? If you're concerned about his perception of you that much then change; otherwise who cares. Just my thoughts.

Yeah, I am pretty much ehhh what ever at this point about what the buddy said...

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the club is just more a comfortable setting to get girls' numbers. lol

True, but when I went out to eat with my sister in law we were at a sushi restaurant..

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But!  I will re-iterate what I said earlier..

The more you go out, the more chances you'll inadvertedly run into someone who makes you go hmmmm...


You may end up having a conversation with some random guy and be like..  "wow, i really like this guy, he really fit the bill!"... or think.."if I wasnt married..."

Though those are innocent thoughts and harmless..

Its not good to wonder about what ifs...

Trust me, they don't even get into a far enough conversation with me for me to think... What if?
HAHAHAHHAHA 

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As long as koj happy xwb tsis K what others haib, k. Mloog lawv hais ntau, koj yuas confused.   

Again, where is this club you're so secretive telling me?

Alrighty!

Not relevant, won't be going for a while.

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Yes, I am a clear drinker
But Reds and Angry Orchards over beer anyday

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I didn't know dancing was dangerous where you'd need protection like that. lol

He knows very well where I draw the line and I tell him of it too and every encounter.
If a guy were to approach me I am not stuck up and b*tchy about it.  I will say hi and if he asks for my name I would say so..
Usually it gets to somewhere like oh are you from around here which I will polite and answer but it usually leads to can I buy you a drink and if my single friends are here I will say oh I am good actually, I am married but you can talk to my friend over there.

Or if its bad enough where guys are just rude then I just flash my ring and move along.
As to guys trying to dance, there is literally no way for them to cause when my friends and I are dancing we dance in a huge clump/pack so we all fend for one another's safety

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Alrighty!

Not relevant, won't be going for a while.

Geez...it's not like if you told me, i'mma go there and wait for you there every single weekend. LOL JK

Peb yeej paub qabhau thiab mas...plus, I'm in LAOS now.lol

Uacas hos tsis xav mus clubbing lawm? Just because koj married?