I'll tell you what I just learned and maybe you can try the equivalent of my story. Nothing is a guaranteed though cuz guys are still that dense and stupid. Women on the other hand.... well just hear me out.
I only know how to play 2 roles or 2 faces like being bi polar. How do I carry myself on ph? I'm fun and gives no lick of a dam on ph right? Well in real life, my life is like a funny skit for youtube. Here's the thing though. My natural self is always fun first. I like to give no eff and just have fun with my date, cracking jokes, just trying to make her laugh. Humor is the recipe for some women right? I mean if I was a chick, I would love a guy like myself, always happy go lucky, all the time. Who wouldn't want to be me?
However, after a few tries, some women stopped laughing at your jokes. You try to tell them something and they be like millenniums and be multi tasking and looking at their phones. I'm sure she did not listened to what I just said. Oh she has a bone for humor alright. Not from me that is cuz she giggles and laughs to whatever it is that she be watching on her phone.
It is then that I snapped. I stopped feeding her jokes. I stopped catering to her needs. I stopped babysitting her azz. I just totally stopped and all I could think about is the grass is greener on the other side and I'm about to ditch her azz for another female. I became my other personality, the james bond type, the I give a dayam about you cuz I no care about you so dump me already and make my day.
When you change, the most amazing things happened. I kinda questioned their sanity and can tell that something is wrong. You did a 360 degrees make over and you are not like yourself anymore. I have become the worst of myself, the matured guy that she always wanted. Before, it was like... So what you want to eat? She's like, I don't know, what is there good to eat? If she don't eat, I don't eat either. Cute right?
Well now, the james bond guy be like. So what you want to eat? She's undecided. I ended up buying my own meal like screw you and your princess self. I went and eat by myself, concentrating on my food was better than looking at her azz. I no longer walked side by side with her. I walked further and faster like I'm a single guy. It actually feels different but good for a change. I was the cut dry kind of a guy. I don't crack jokes no more, I'm a serious kind of a guy, something like your daddy kind of a guy, so strict and ish. I don't like it but I got no choice but to change.
Amazing thing happened. She ended up opened up a little bit more. She actually likes a serious guy and I found out that this type of a woman likes their men like a james bond 007 smooth character kind of a guy. Women like these wants a man to take charge but at the same time, could slap their azz if they were out of tune. The abusive type, you smelling what I'm saying? I'm am so uncomfortable with this new role but it is working. I do not and have never abuse any women but some women out there are drawn to jerks. It keeps them in check.
So the lesson here is this. You have to see what your partner is attractive to. You might discover it by accident. I don't know what role women play but you could play the ditzy dumb blond and see how he reacts and then you play the sophisticated professional person and see how he reacts. Some men are dumb, they don't care what role you play, as long as you look pretty for them.. As if right?
I think imma have to dump this one. I think my relationship is heading for doomsday. I think this chick here likes me best when I reminded her of her abusive ex. Sorry babe, I only know how to be myself, the true self. I made it ugly so she can dump me but she's attractive to that trait as well, what a guy is suppose to do?