Regarding working hard, it is all about a person's working ethics. They acquired it throughout their life through struggles and setting their priorities straight.
To some, working hard cuz they have ADD. They can't sit still and needs to do something, anything.
To some like myself, I was a princess growing up. No need to do chores, not even washing dishes or doing laundry. Not even doing my bed. No need to work either when you get good allowance growing up for doing nothing. Typical old school traditional viet family where they think that the female in the family takes care of the household chores.
Their biggest mistake. After mommy died, guilt is the hardest thing for me to swallow. With no one around to cater to my azz, I had to learn everything from scratch. It then becomes addicted and makes me mad, even today that had I am equipped with these skills, I could have helped her.
Everyone has a story I tell ya. We are who we are by what already happened to us from yesterdays. Playing catch up, that's hard work for me.