A person stands out among others after being tamed.

[Prude]

``To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy, who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you I am nothing more than a fox, like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other."--The Little Prince, St. Exupery.


Anyone we tame can be our need. 

[Believe_N_Me]

Sounds like what the OGs and mos/nraug ab say to each other when they meet up during the Hmong New Year in Laos/Thailand. 

[Believe_N_Me]

Anyways, yeah, a lot of people stay with the person whom they feel the most comfortable with and who will take their crap.

A friend whose spouse was a serial cheater told me that is why they stayed in the marriage. There is no love but a strong level of comfortability that they didn't find in anyone else.

The experts call it co-dependency.