Ladies, this is all you need to know: "He couldn't even if he wanted to"

[Believe_N_Me]

The type of man who would string along a woman is incapable of having a fulfilling, healthy relationship.

[Believe_N_Me]

A great way to help you move on from a relationship where you believe the person misled you is to look at it from a very logical perspective.

First of all, you're hurting because you're stuck on emotions. A person who misleads others is typically a master at manipulating emotions through lovebombing and future faking. They create unhealthy attachments by selling a dream to you. And that is why you feel obsessed and heartbroken because you're sad about not getting to live the "dream". However, if you stick to reality, you'll quickly realize that this person isn't capable of making the dream happen and that's why they relied on emotional manipulation. Otherwise, you wouldn't have engaged with them at the beginning.

You're heartbroken because you're in love with their "potential" and the "potential of life with them". But stick to reality. What actions are they taking in the present to show that they can even meet that potential? They know that they were selling you snake oil and that's why they had to abandon the connection before you realized that they're a fraud.

It was never them "not wanting to", but more like "they don't have it in them to produce those results".

They over-promised. They even lied to themself that they could do those things. They needed a partner to fantasize with them. But you're a doer and it would have never worked out with them in the long run.

[Believe_N_Me]

I have never come across this type of man who moved on to have a fulfilling and healthy relationship. All I've seen are disgruntled wives/girlfriends who continue to have their hopes deferred. Meanwhile, their girl friends are on to the next important relationship milestone with their husband.

If you keep waiting for this type of man to show up for you, you will find yourself 10-20-30-40 years later with nothing to show. Your entire relationship was always in limbo. In fact, was it ever a relationship? More like a situationship.

[JonniJacko]

The truth is usually right in front of you. We just ignore them or missed them because they speak softly to us....lol Pay attention to the smallest nuances, and it will reveal the truth...If anything, trust your instincts, even if you're wrong, you can't go against your instincts...LI ke if you got a big ass headache, you gonna feel that shit either way, no matter how you try to trick your mind...lols

[Believe_N_Me]

I'm currently listening to one of the biggest Hmong drama on social media right now. This is what I noticed about players/manipulators. They compartmentali ze their life in the following way:

The woman they have at home (wife or girlfriend) is NEVER his dream girl. He uses her as a convenience and the supply who takes care of all the domestic duties. He never shows much affection and loves to brag about all the sexy, beautiful, smart, and charismatic girlfriends in his past. He also likes to brag that there are always women hitting on him and flirting with him. He does and says things to incite anxiety and a jealous reaction from her. In the meantime, she'll bicker, criticize, point out all his flaws, and nag. He loves to get her riled up in this way and then tunes her out because he knows that she'll never leave. In fact, no matter how triggered she is, it actually causes her to do more for him like putting up with his crap and wandering eyes.

This type of man also has a lot of women in his orbit. He flirts with all of them. There are the ones who he is physically attracted to. These are his dream girls and all day long he talks badly about the woman at home to them. He'll call her crazy and psycho, which he triggered.  If these women start wanting to take the relationship to the next level, he'll drop them.

This type of guy is basically creating triangulation among the women so he can feel wanted and desired.

He has a life with the woman at home, who he shows no passion or affection towards.

He gives all his affection and passion to the woman outside the house, but does not have a life with her/them.

This type of guy has narcissistic and avoidant traits. Basically, a despicable person to be entangled with.