As far as who has to do the "choosing" goes

[JonniJacko]

It will come down to not who has more options, but who is keeping their options open.

This is why I tell people, if you already subconsciously chose someone after say a few interactions, dates, etc..., and they haven't, then your name is not on line number 1 on their list. lol play along or move along.

This is also why, I encourage people to know themselves, know what they want, or need. And only flirt and talk to someone when they are the one worth taking the chance on....it's all a risk taking...you don't really ever know if someone really is the one if you don't take the chance....this pertaining to personality, values, and life goals and if compromising is an option if it comes to it....bedroom rituals, that something you should know right away when you see them for the first time...for the most part...LOL

[Believe_N_Me]

When it comes to relationships I am a builder. I want a love relationship that is going to bear fruit because it's those fruits that will keep the partnership going and create loyalty after the limerence feelings fade. In other words, I want someone who is going to be in it for the long haul and continue to show up after the honeymoon phase. That doesn't mean that you stop feeling for them.

Anyways, I can pretty much tell who is a builder and has it in them to endure a long-lasting commitment. Chemistry and compatibility doesn't cut it.

NOT GOING TO GIVE AWAY MY SECRETS OF HOW I KNOW. DON'T NEED THE PH PLAYERS AND AVOIDANTS TO USE THIS INFORMATION FOR THEIR ADVANTAGE. 

Most modern men are "spenders" and not "builders". What that means is that they want a relationship for the companionship only. They want your time and your body, but they want it at a consistency because they don't want to have to constantly try to woo a woman just to get those two things. So wouldn't it be great to have a girlfriend who will give those things without actually having to be married?

Even when they do get married, it's still just for the sake of companionship. Then it's like DuMa said, "what are we doing here? What are we doing with each other now that we're married?"

All the married couples I know who are still together after almost divorcing over legit serious issues, such as infidelity (financial, physical, emotional, and so on), all said the same thing.

They stayed for the fruits that came from the marriage. Those are not easy things to just give up because they are your fruits, they are your life, and they are you.

[Believe_N_Me]

Older singles who are anxious and secure MUST BE MORE DISCERNING because there are a lot of avoidants in the dating pool. They can keep a facade on for up until you think it's a relationship and then suddenly, they discard you out of the blue.

Who has time for this?

[JonniJacko]

Oh, tsis paub teb koj thiab os. haha

[Believe_N_Me]

It's better when the man does the choosing. Whether the woman accepts or not is a different thread.