Love isn't really about reciprocating

[Believe_N_Me]

You pick someone to love.

That's really all there is to it.

If the relationship ends, then it's because they didn't pick you to love. They walked away.

Did you know that it really only takes one person to make a relationship work and last?

[Prude]

Millionaires can make love work with several persons then.

[Believe_N_Me]

Millionaires can make love work with several persons then.

And they have.

[JonniJacko]

We're not talking about sex dolls are we?

I mean I can go online, choose my pick, love it, and it might last forever..I can get a few more in the future, and she can't say nothing bout it. LMAO

On a serious note? I don't see how that is possible BNM....obvious ly, you don't keep calling someone who doesn't pick up, you don't keep talking to someone if their tone and body language is telling to you to get away...LOL

[JonniJacko]

reciprocation isn't about keeping scores. It's just more about acknowledging each other.  it's a way of saying I love you, I care about you, without having to say it....haha Otherwise even if you care or love someone but don't ever do anything to show it besides saying it, the other person will have no idea you actually do care....LOL If someone is just using you, then sure, they don't care about reciprocation. .if they're getting what they want out from you...that's all they care....so you definitely want someone who wants to be wanted..and you only want to be with someone that wants to be with you...and only you.....absolu tely. haha

[Prude]

reciprocation isn't about keeping scores. It's just more about acknowledging each other.  it's a way of saying I love you, I care about you, without having to say it....haha Otherwise even if you care or love someone but don't ever do anything to show it besides saying it, the other person will have no idea you actually do care....LOL If someone is just using you, then sure, they don't care about reciprocation. .if they're getting what they want out from you...that's all they care....so you definitely want someone who wants to be wanted..and you only want to be with someone that wants to be with you...and only you.....absolu tely. haha

I dated girls who brought their relatives with on my bills and not on a shared bill or at least some sympathy.  But I went on ghosting them forever until they get the message themselves.

[JonniJacko]

one time years ago, when Hmong people were still ghetto...Durin g the Hmong New years, the pho restaurants were pack with Hmong folks....So I was with a small group of friends, maybe 4 of us. All other tables were like 10-20....When we left, we all chipped in on the tip, which is maybe around 30 bucks. I was the last one to walked out behind my friends and some reason I look back to the table, and there, a Hmong chick, grabbed the tip we left.....I didn't say anything or told my friends about it...I wasn't in the mood to rumble that night, j.k so I just forget it..They probably spat in all our pho anyway....LOL

[Prude]

Once a tip is put on the table,
it's anybody's if the waitress
isn't picking it up.

I was with some friends a few
months ago to a Chinese buffet at
this remote city. As we were
getting up and putting cash tips
on the table, one guy whispered
that we should have one of us
take it straight to the waitress or
to wait for her to come by first,
because there was a table of
Blacks next to us.

One of the guys took the tips
to the Chinese waitress.

So we were prejudicial but
hey I wasn't the one who came
up with the idea.

[Cali Guy]

That’s not my reality though I see your point. So many one sided connections and yet they never leave.

[JonniJacko]

If ssomeone isn't reciprocating, theres' only a few possibilities. ...

a)they are extremely shy, a fearful avoidant....ty pe..get's uncomfortable and pull away, when someone comes on too strong, or express they want to get closer...LOL Usually they have past traumas, or bad relationships before. So they are extremely vigilent...

b) They're not in a hurry for anything, They're not too crazy about a relationship, they don't have strong libido at the moment, LMAO..So if you stay, you stay, you go , you go, they don't care.

c) YOu like them, maybe a lot...But they only kind of like you- Because they like someone else more...

d) She's a queen, so...you better show her you're the KIng if you want steaks, not bread crumbs..LOL

The first one is the only one you might want to consider playing it out...all others, your best bet is to fold and hunt elsewhere..hah a

[VillainousHero]

Give and take, but in small increments...n ot even close to moderation. 

[Believe_N_Me]

The idea is for both person to focus on loving the other person, and not keep scores about what they're receiving from the other.

For example, if I focus on loving you, and you focus on loving me, then we both will get the relationship that we want and desire.

This concept is lost on a lot of people.

[JonniJacko]

I think reciprocation to most men is mainly during the courting stage and it's more like things like if she's responsive, if she puts any effort such as asking questions, initiating contact, doing something thoughtful. But then maybe those kind of guys are clueless that they need clear signs...LOL or better yet, directness...L OL

But yup, you'll know when it's love.....The lasting type...it's usually steady and boring, but steady wins the race....hahah