I've asked my clients does it hurt you and does your spouse know, if yes to both

[theking]

...then your spouse doesn't really love you...

During my days as a social worker, I've dealt with family issues like the case below too:

My husband has cheated throughout our 41-year marriage — does he even love me?
How can I tell if my husband loves me? We have been married 41 years, and during our entire marriage he's been cheating on me with other women. He takes good care of me and is always there for me and our family. We hardly have sex. I try to give him a romantic kiss, but he only gives me a peck.

I have suggested that we go on date nights and go out to breakfast or dinner once or twice a month. I also told him that we should be jumping all over each other because our kids are grown and on their own with their own families. My gut instinct tells me he is still cheating. What should I do?

[Believe_N_Me]

He chose her to have a life with. Everyone else is just a fling.

Some men compartmentali ze their life. I wouldn't want to be in her shoes or in the shoes of the other women.