Like in sports, you can get benched too

[theking]

What “Benching” Means in Dating—and How to Tell If It’s Happening to You
Benching in dating means keeping someone on the sidelines as a backup option by giving them just enough attention to stay interested without making a real commitment. Key signs include inconsistent communication, last-minute plans, and vague future talk.

[JonniJacko]

yes, i tell the youngsters all the time...when you're a rookie, you gotta learn the ropes...back up, reserve list, you take whatever minutes you get...LOL

Once you master the game...looking for a serious role....then you can't settle for anything less that 1st choice....in fact, there should not even be anything below the first line...you got to be the one and only, or it's time for a career change.....LOL