Long story short I grew up in a pretty traditional family.
I was never allowed to go out late, sleep over at friends or relatives. No piercings, no tattoos and crazy colored hair was out of the picture.
So obviously growing up and reaching my early 20's I never drank, partied hard or did any substances of any sort. Never even experienced what a club was until I was 21.
Now from my early 20's reaching to my mid 20's I occasionally will go out with friends to the bars or clubs.
Yes I am married; I never take my ring off. I make it clear I am married when men approach me and my Husband always knows where I am at and whom I am with.
He's doesn't drink and does not like to club and go to the bars.
One time I ran into his buddy, of course I said "Hi."
They always ask where my Husband is and I always give the same response "He's at home, bars and clubbing is not his scene."
Don't get me wrong I don't go out every weekend, but when I do it's always just the girls and there are a few that are indeed married.
Anyways fast forward, my Husband picked me up one night after I was out with my friends and we went out for some late night food and ran into his same buddy. His buddy's response was "Dang, you are one loyal guy, I keep running into your wife and I don't see you ever."
Which I assume is apparently a lot when we have only ran into each other twice and both times my Husband was aware of where and when I was.
I wanted to so badly speak my mind and say "Excuse me? Are you saying I am un-loyal because I am seen without him? And I am sorry you apparently have never heard of something called trust."
But I bit my tongue and did not say a thing.
Was I overthinking or not?
My Husband and I have talked over this matter before and he allows me to go out and hang out with friends. I always ask him if it bothers him that I go to the clubs or bars once in a while and he says no cause he trust me. But I can’t help but also feel bad. I have never cheated or done anything wrong. After a night of going out I always tell him how it went and if men approached me I tell him what happened and how I handled it. I tell him just because we share everything.
Was it wrong of me to be upset his friend said that?