Hello, I am in a relationship with a gal that I am really interested in settling down with. However, she is a strong believer of Christ and I am very traditional. Please share your experiences with me. I'd like to know how you two made it through with the differences.
Your situation will be tough. In the Hmong culture, she is expected to adopt your religious belief/practices to be considered your family in life and in death. This is why there's NO middle ground, no such thing as respecting each other's religious differences in Hmong marriages, and if you try to do that, Hmong people will be looking puzzled like it's something never done before - like you're an alien, sooo un-hmong like, maybe a weakling, out of your mind, etc.. Also, she may be treated like an "outcast" from time to time if she doesn't. Also, since you're traditional I'm assuming your family will be too and all of you will expect her to adopt your faith/religious practices. Bottom line, it's best to say good bye now to avoid lots of headaches for everyone later...
Unless you're willing to stand up, be your own man and truly allow her to keep her faith regardless of what anyone says - to truly respect each other's religious differences, not let that get in the way of your marriage/and or love... But still, it will clash no matter what. Certain milestones of your life, you'd be doing religious rituals/practices - will you pray or ua neeg? or do nothing? What if she wants to pray and you want to ua neeg? What about the children later on, how do you plan to introduce religion to them? Your way or her way? What about in your house, will you have a xwm kab or bible? OR bible in one corner and xwm kab in another?
People say this is America and there's religious freedom in this country. But not so in the hmong yet.