Well, in the early years/when you first fall for each other - it's more "lust" than "love" and over the year if you don't work on your relationship, the love is there but the lust diminished or both diminished slowly and over time, dries up. That's why it's important for couples to nurture their love, relationship, to keep that sparks alive. The majority of Hmong men don't see this but those that do - over the years, whatever they had at the beginning will just grows and gets deeper.