Because at this point he has not done anything worse than the stealing.
Yes that was bad enough as it is, but he's somewhat learned from it... Or at least I would like to think he has...
He knows very well that all that is left is for him to do is either be verbally and physically abusive and/or to cheat.
Oh snaps!
This the same couple?!!? I remember you now!!!
Aww man... you should've left him a long time ago honey!
This guy is no good!
Your man's the man that stole the money to buy car parts right?!
That's trash.
You need to leave him!
you'll regret it if you stay!
You'll regret it even more if you have a kid!
Becuase when you have a kid it'll make it really hard for you to decide to stay and if you do, you'll be miserable! and if you do decide to get a divoce, it's going to be tough for you to find a man becuase usually a woman(and even men) with kids find it hard to get a good guy or girl unless they have kids themselves.
Do yourself a favor and cut your losses..
You're already unhappy!
I understand it's hard to let go and scary to move on.. you been together for so long you don't or wouldn't know how to function being single..
But you know what? Look at it this way.. and I tell myself too... "I was doing fine when I was single.. I should be just fine if I become single agian"...and you know what? You will be just fine!
If you get the house? It's ok, default on the loan, yeah you get bad credit but you can always buidl it up! But it won't happen becuase you're probably the breadwinner and paying for the house anyways!
Or sell the house, or rent it out, etc etc etc.. the thing is, yes life is scary especially when you there's finacial things involved but you'll be ok! it'll work itself out!
I tell you what... my mom had this biggest loan.. it was over 100k.. recently turned single mom, you know the story.. same ole story... anyways... I worried for her and for us as a family... why? Well everyone's moving on living their life and here's mom stuck with this big loan.. working her little factory job making only a little over 300 bucks a month trying to make payments... she had a plan, not the best, but she had a plan doing the best she could do, I was unhelpful becuase I was a jobless son!! Anyways she said she has a bank she can go to refinance to get the payments low enough for her to pay monthly. We go to her "bank".. it's one of those finance bank that's actually loan sharks, I just didn't know what to say or do, the apr was like 27 percent, something rediculously high, I just remember thinking to myself my mom can make payments for the rest of her life till the day she dies and it'll never be paid off!
But we was in a bind, what was we going to do?!!?
I felt so bad, I know my mom had to be so scared, but she was like "we just slowly pay a little by little"...
I was scared for her too! and me!
anyways! something happened and we just ended up paying 30k for everything to be honest and now she's debt free! At that time I was not a jobless son anymore and could pitch in.
But see things will work out! You just can't be scared!