Note to self:
The biggest rule in relationship is self awareness. You see there is a dichotomy of a pros and cons in everything we do and how we behave. They say that we get back what we project. They say that we receive what we've given. We all know that isn't always the case because even the energy we create, we didn't do so of our own accord. Energy is neither created nor destroyed. It's is borrowed and channel into something, then changed and released out as something else. In that' concept we may have appeared to created something out of nothing, but we also need something to feed that creation.
If you're mad at someone, maybe sometimes it's something else that one is mad at, but this person just happened to be there with one more thing on top of your plate that tips the balance. One can be extremely mad, but the presence of that someone may tip the balance in the opposite direction and calms one and calls back sanity and peace. This is sometimes what people call emotional intelligence. Knowing how to act and react, behave, and allow the right emotions to manifest. Yes, sometimes love can be harsh, but love is also comforting. It's how we can incite or insight the correct emotional response. If we poke and prod, we will incite anger and rapid response. If we carefully compliment and comfort, we will insight favor and empathetic responses.