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Offline lifemystery

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Not going to happen with me
« on: October 06, 2021, 05:26:29 PM »
No matter how attractive of a single mom she is and if she's looking forward for me to marrying her; being the secondary, the backup plan while her kids and their biological father will be the primary, the first ones. It's not going to happen with me, maybe with another man it will; unless she's a widow that will be a different situation.



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Re: Not going to happen with me
« Reply #1 on: October 07, 2021, 09:16:43 AM »
Why would a single mom make her ex primary to her new love?

I wouldn't take her, either, if that's the case.

One time I took a divorced girl to Olive Garden so we could have dinner together and get to know each other more. She constantly talked just about her ex. My dinner no longer tasted good. I never called her back after that.




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Re: Not going to happen with me
« Reply #2 on: October 07, 2021, 09:50:21 AM »
I canít blame you for that one reporter.



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Re: Not going to happen with me
« Reply #3 on: October 07, 2021, 11:25:01 AM »
Why would a single mom make her ex primary to her new love?

I wouldn't take her, either, if that's the case.

One time I took a divorced girl to Olive Garden so we could have dinner together and get to know each other more. She constantly talked just about her ex. My dinner no longer tasted good. I never called her back after that.

It seems she's treating you as a marriage relationship therapist and a counselor. She hasn't fully recovered from her previous marriage. Good that you never called her back.



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Re: Not going to happen with me
« Reply #4 on: October 07, 2021, 11:43:19 AM »
It seems she's treating you as a marriage relationship therapist and a counselor. She hasn't fully recovered from her previous marriage. Good that you never called her back.

Right. She wasn't over him yet. And it appeared she was dumped or something. lol



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Re: Not going to happen with me
« Reply #5 on: October 07, 2021, 12:43:21 PM »
It all depending on where you are at in your life cuz really now, why do beggars have a choice? 

One can also say that you are not man enough to deal with situation like this.  Premature boys shouldn't play the grown man's game.  You shouldn't get in where you don't fit in.  What love got to do with a little bit of condition like she has to be a widow and making sure that the other man is not in the picture? 

If you are a real man, you can take on all conditions.  Her kids still needs their biological father so he's gonna be hanging around you guys for some times.  If you feel threaten by this other so called "other" man then maybe you should check your insecurity. 

Now before you go after me for saying all of these things, let me share you with my own personal view. 

What I say must also applies with me as well.  Divorcee do get a bad rep when it comes to the dating playing field and I get that but is it possible for a never been married guy to learn how to love a divorcee?  Possible, but it all depends on his game plan as well.  Some play for fun and some play for keeps.  I need to question those who plays for real for I think they are playing immaturely and not knowing what they are getting themselves into.  I can easily talk them out of it or making them have doubts.   :2funny:

I'm not a real man though.  I play for fun first and I let her decides how she wants to take this.  If one of my red flag is for her to linger around the ex then I don't need to waste my time with her anymore.  She got issues of her own and perhaps, maybe, she can catch an immature guy who doesn't know any better and con him to be the father of her kids while she still has a relationship with the baby daddy. 

The youthful in me used to shy away from divorcee women but the older in me has opened up to some divorcee if them red flags are not met so if you see me with a divorcee, your first thought is that I'm playing the field for fun and you may be right.  Realistically speaking, she may playing the fields as well as she is not ready to look for a new daddy for her kids.  It goes both ways too you know?   :D




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Re: Not going to happen with me
« Reply #6 on: October 10, 2021, 02:55:10 AM »
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I canít blame you for that one reporter.



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Re: Not going to happen with me
« Reply #7 on: October 10, 2021, 07:46:02 AM »
No matter how attractive of a single mom she is and if she's looking forward for me to marrying her; being the secondary, the backup plan while her kids and their biological father will be the primary, the first ones. It's not going to happen with me, maybe with another man it will; unless she's a widow that will be a different situation.


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No matter how attractive of a single dad he is and if he's looking forward for me to marrying him; being the secondary, the backup plan while his kids and their biological mother will be the primary, the first ones. It's not going to happen with me, maybe with another woman it will; unless he is a widower that will be a different situation.



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Re: Not going to happen with me
« Reply #8 on: January 30, 2023, 10:51:10 PM »
If we were that great at picking out the right person, then explain why are there so many people in miserable relationships?

Nej tib ub tib no, but many of you ended up committing to a horrible woman anyway.  ::)

For me it is all about logistics like if our lifestyle will blend. I understand that taking on children can be a struggle so it's a reasonable concern to have. But the original poster is still very shallow because he premised his argument with looks. What he should have really said is that no woman is ever attractive enough for him to put up with any drama from her, period.


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