They call me instead of the other way around.
Looking back, I could've done more.
For example, my first flame. I really liked him a lot. He did all the initiating and when he stopped I didn't even ask him what was going on. I told myself that he just wasn't interested anymore. I had a good cry and then began meeting other people. About 6 years later he got my number after I broke up with some other guy, paid me a visit, and told me that we never broke up. He believed that I'm the one who ghosted him. Anyways, he started calling me again except that I had just met my husband and I wanted to give that a chance.
i get into this situation a lot back then..i think to be fair though, i lacked self esteem back then. the other thing was maybe I really didn't like her to the point I would fight for her until she puts a restraining order on me.lols.plus like most young bucks, we don't see or get the clues girls send us...okay so she has been avoiding me. that must means she dont want me to call anymore..when maybe its more like she's testing to see how interested and how much effort Im willing to put in for her..but then again, its like if she really likes me too then we shouldn't have to test one another. Im a guy, and a lot of young girls don't udnerstand that guys are straightforwar
d creatures..lol
s but i think the real reason is, too much pride, getting rejected or turn down would be too much to bear..these are the kind of girls that ends up with the jackasses..bec
ause the jackass will be aggressive and persistent even when she gives him all the signs of not interested..we
ll for most girls, they eventually give in, because once the jackass releases his hormones, she's all in because now her hormones are raging too...lols
my point is everyone is different, at at different stages in their life, how they see the courting,dating, relationship scene is different and can change overtime through more growing and maturity..alon
g with life and dating experience. as long as we all had good intentions, that's what matters..even if there were things we coulda done better or handle better. we don't learn if we dont make mistakes.
I use to say well, I gave those girls a chance..but now I think of it, maybe I didn't really put in enough effort. Maybe I get the gist they want to test me, but I wasn't having it...Hell, why was I so afraid of getting rejected anyway. but all in all, everyone learns from their mistakes,,most of us...and when we do, it's just makes us more whole, and therefore making us choose wiser, and handle courtship,dating, relationships better..but even still....no relationship is guarantee...mo
st of us are in a relationship for the sake of not being alone...I would still be single til this day, but I came across an angel that I know would die for me and vice versa...haha maybe..maybe not..we'll see...lols