I have a sister who pass on since the late 1980's so I dont really remember her much, but the story goes on.... She ran away when we are in ban vanai (how ever you spell that). She was murdered by some thai people and so sometimes she will come to my parents for money and food. Before the family are sure about her death, we have not set her spirit free so she will come to my parent and bother them. One night, my dad got up in to go use the restroom and there was a mouse out of no where. The mouse was on top of a drawer that was next to the door going to the hall way. My mom saw the mouse first so she told my dad to hit it on the way out to use the restroom. Once my dad was out of the room, the mouse transform into a shadow and yelled at my mom. The shadow says "oh, so you want him to hit me huh, well let me teach you a lesson". The shadow then grabbed my mom by the foot and drag her off the bed. She screamed for my dad and once he got into the room the shadow was gone. My dad found my mom on the ground and ask her what have happen? My mother told my dad the whole story and the next day they have one of my grandma look into it. She told us that it was my sister who came to visit cause she is hungry and broke. My parents then burn her some paper money and offered her some food. A few weeks later, my parents finally did that thing to set her soul/spirit free to recarcinate.
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This is also about my sister. My mom been sick so she have some do that horn thing to see whats the reason to her sickness. We found out that after the ceremony to set her soul/spirit free, she couldnt recarcinate because she was murdered and her body have no grave. My aunty was summon to do a jingle bell into the other world to built her a grave. When my Aunty was in the stage/trance mode, my aunty was crying and mumbling some words that I cant understand. When the jingle was done, she told us that she saw the whole murder thing repeat infront of her. She say that my sister was killed with a bullet to the back of head. The people that killed her are those that she took off with (some thai people). She then dressed my sister up in hmong traditional death cloth and built her a grave site. After that ceromony we have not heard anything from my parent regarding my sister so I guess she finally was able to go reborn.