PebHmong Discussion Forum
General Category => Hmong Culture & History => Wedding Rituals & Customs => Topic started by: vood00 on December 17, 2009, 09:25:36 PM
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I don't know the average age on PH, but when your children grows up and wants to wed, will you be doing a traditional Hmong wedding for them?
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yes i will...
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I would love to. :)
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Not married nor do I have any kids but in a perfect world, I would like to still carry on a traditional wedding. However, I don't know what the future holds. I might want one thing but my kids might want another. Besides, I don't know enough about wedding rituals to carry one out. Maybe I should get started on my research.
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No...that tradition dies with my folks.
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I don't care!
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Yes, i would but i think i might do it differently-- well of course thats only if i have a hmong husband, and we had hmong kids...hehe! Other than that NO...
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I would educate my children on it, but I would leave it up to them. Passing my Hmong clothes on though, for sure.
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Both for me.
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I would like my children to have the following marriage tradition:
1. Proposal.
2. Engagement.
3. Wedding.
:)
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yes definitely... ;) ;) ;)
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most definetly i will not only have a hmong wedding for my children but also enroll all my children in some sort of hmong history class and also enroll them in any activity that deals with the hmong culture so that even tho they may not understand why they will later in live appreciate the benefits of what i'm doing for them they can stand high and let people know i'm hmong and this is my traditional ritual :-*
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For my kids, it will be a blend. Because we, as individuals, are not islands. We still have families, and as long as the clan system exists, there are certain bases that still have to be covered. But we have resources and income that our parents did not. Therefore, we can make future weddings modernized, and as long as you present everything in an impressive fashion, very few will question.
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:) yes, but I will let them decide. I like to get the best of both worlds.
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if the children want to, then they can have a traditional hmong wedding.
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The idea behind a "traditional" Hmong wedding is amazingly important. The thing about the "modern day" Hmong wedding is that it's been altered big time from the "traditional" Hmong wedding and the important idea behind it is no longer important. The "modern day" Hmong wedding is all about greed and grudges against one another's clan. There's way too much " your clan did this to our clan and now we want your clan to fix this and pay for this and that" kind of things. It's full of anger and argument.
A wedding should be a time to celebrate the joining of two lives and it should be a happy joyous time. I still strongly believe in this and I will make sure that my children have this happiness when they start their new lives together with their significant other. :) Whether it be a "traditional" Hmong wedding or a modernized Hmong-American wedding.
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I don't know the average age on PH, but when your children grows up and wants to wed, will you be doing a traditional Hmong wedding for them?
I say no wedding.. just a happy birthday party.
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I will not let my kids suffer the same fate as I, but on a different note, if my son marries someone whose family still wants to, then my hands are tied. I will not do that for my daughters though.
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I would like my children to have the following marriage tradition:
1. Proposal.
2. Engagement.
3. Wedding.
:)
My childen will also have chinese and burmese wedding as well.
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Yes I would. 8)
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One thing you guys should keep in mind, is that a church (as I call it) wedding usually a lot more expensive than a Hmong wedding.
Consider the price of a bride's head. Would the husband's family pay for that, in addition to having a church wedding? One side is totally screwed in that scenario. Or would the bride's family help pitch in to cover a portion of that cost?
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yes because I'm hmong and no matter how much I want to be americanize, i'm still yellow.
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Yes.
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If he wants it he can have it....... BUt we would rather have the traditional church style wedding...
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Yes, I will most definately have a Hmong wedding. The American wedding comes second if the fund is eligible for it.
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To me it will be about what they want... But I guarantee that I will be using a rubber chicken
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To me it will be about what they want... But I guarantee that I will be using a rubber chicken
lol rubber chicken will do..haha
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Heck no!
Fake bows with fake thumb prints to the ground are dumb and meaningless.
If a groom wants to take my future daughters they gotta do something sincere, not something they "had to" do.
Americanized wedding is even more fake to the Hmong groom. Trust me on this! Mostly everything is coordinated at the demands of the bride. It only has meaning to her and her alone. With a Hmong wedding, even if the groom doesn't understand what's going on the fact that it carries value and importance for his parents becomes very meaningful to him.
This is just how it is for a man in general.
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My parents already gave me the wedding that I wanted.
So, it is now my turn.. in the future to give my children the wedding that they want, whether it be a Hmong traditional wedding or not.
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nope. don't know all them steps to make it happen. too damn complicated. plus a traditional hmong wedding isn't for the happy couple.
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If they want.....my wife and I had a church wedding.... First of it's kind in the family......We did however switch to Hmong clothes for a blessing...It was so funny because since I am not Hmong my dad just kept saying that we should have a bunch of kids and he was also asking if the money was real
(http://i33.photobucket.com/albums/d60/kmchung/wedding207-1.jpg)
(http://i33.photobucket.com/albums/d60/kmchung/usatheadtable.jpg)