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Relationship => The Single & Dating Scenes => Topic started by: FOREVER_SNY on May 24, 2019, 01:11:45 PM

Title: Friends of Benefit
Post by: FOREVER_SNY on May 24, 2019, 01:11:45 PM
My sister in law is 30 and single, having trouble finding a guy, and she never dated anyone, but she keep talking to this guy who she met online for few months now, who only wanted to be friend of benefit, I been telling her to leave him and she keep saying they are just friends on her terms. What do you guys think about Friends of Benefit?
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: DuMa on May 24, 2019, 01:51:55 PM
Hooking up for casual sex is an art.  It is not for everybody.  Those who are doing it are justifying it to their own set of rules and conducts.  Although it leads to nowhere for many, it is an alternative answer to loneliness.  Always say, do this or that.  As long as it is healthy and no damages then all is well but doing it long enough, feelings may be involved and things may get complicated. 
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: theking on May 24, 2019, 05:34:17 PM
My sister in law is 30 and single, having trouble finding a guy, and she never dated anyone, but she keep talking to this guy who she met online for few months now, who only wanted to be friend of benefit, I been telling her to leave him and she keep saying they are just friends on her terms. What do you guys think about Friends of Benefit?

I think you mean friends with benefit...

As far as your sister in law goes, it's really up to her as she's an adult so if she wants to date someone just to have sex, she has the right to do what makes her happy...Nothin g wrong with sex between two consenting adults. Plus, there are plenty of women out there that are only seeking sex, not love or a serious long term relationship..
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: VillainousHero on May 25, 2019, 07:43:44 PM
I don't even want to get caught in any black widow web... ;)
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: tRouBLe on May 29, 2019, 07:15:13 AM
I don’t think “friends with benefits” really work out because if you talk/do things with them long enough, feelings will eventually get in the way.
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: Gucci K on May 29, 2019, 07:53:44 AM
in your sister in-law's case, if her friend was the person who set the terms, "friends with benefits"...he's already got someone steady, while she's his benefit.  she'got nothing to gain...except the minimal time he spares online (when he's bored) and if both are lucky the occasional sex (phuck buddy), if there is any at all. 

if one really wants to be friends with benefits, consider being the whore (goes for men, too) because you should never have  just one! ha!
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: VillainousHero on May 29, 2019, 01:55:06 PM
I thinks it's the people who use the "terms" without even understand what the "terms" are.

Again thanks to the people who sell "smart" phone to make everyone else use more dumb, dumber, dumbest.  ;D dum, dummer, dummest.  O0
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: Gracified23 on April 18, 2020, 11:27:05 PM
Xxxx
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: Visualmon on April 28, 2020, 02:14:22 AM
They both sucks
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: Rico on July 10, 2020, 12:54:44 PM
My sister in law is 30 and single, having trouble finding a guy, and she never dated anyone, but she keep talking to this guy who she met online for few months now, who only wanted to be friend of benefit, I been telling her to leave him and she keep saying they are just friends on her terms. What do you guys think about Friends of Benefit?

I love friends with benefits. no string attach, no argument, no money spending but when you need it, she is coming over to a good session. why not??
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: jennamt on September 08, 2020, 08:01:23 PM
A year too late but from my personal experience, some women (myself included) tend to view the sexual experience on a more emotional level than men do. When I had indulged in FWB in the past, I ended up hoping for more and causing myself unnecessary heartbreak. I couldn't complain about it to my partner because I knew the "terms" going in. If your sister-in-law has never dated, I definitely wouldn't advised this kind of relationship because she will get hurt. She is an adult so she can do whatever she wants. Let this be a lesson for her.
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: Gracified23 on September 23, 2020, 06:47:02 PM
I love friends with benefits. no string attach, no argument, no money spending but when you need it, she is coming over to a good session. why not??

False. FWB is transactional.
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: Joycompany on November 05, 2020, 12:16:42 AM
FWB hurts.  Unfortunately some people will need to experience it to understand the weight of the hurt.  Men can do many things that will mean nothing to them. 
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: lexicon on November 05, 2020, 08:12:37 AM
FWB hurts.  Unfortunately some people will need to experience it to understand the weight of the hurt.  Men can do many things that will mean nothing to them.

Let's not start to generalize here. Men AND Women are capable of being hurtful. I view FWB the same way I do masturbation; it's a means to an end. Less risk and work with masturbation imo.
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: theking on November 05, 2020, 05:29:17 PM
Let's not start to generalize here. Men AND Women are capable of being hurtful.

True women are just as capable as men when it comes to "can do many things that will mean nothing to them."

Perhaps less cases on average than men but just as capable..
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: Rebel on January 28, 2021, 02:03:28 PM
Can only work if you are heartless and can detach yourself from the person. But then who can sleep with someone you don’t like? Feelings always gets the best and someone will get hurt in the end.
Title: Re: Friends of Benefit
Post by: Joycompany on February 11, 2021, 12:20:08 AM
Let's not start to generalize here. Men AND Women are capable of being hurtful. I view FWB the same way I do masturbation; it's a means to an end. Less risk and work with masturbation imo.

 ;D