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Title: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: Kong Vang on February 11, 2021, 03:48:51 PM
This is nothing new to anyone or at least I hope it is not, but most of Social Media is full of exaggerations. Social Media depicts only the extremes of our situation and feelings, either we're super happy go lucky, having the time of our lives or we are in the gutter, hanging onto our dear lives while battling our spouses and contemplating suicide. These 2 extremes makes us feel inadequate if we let it, because our lives seems much more boring and uneventful when compared to others.

However, the truth is most of us live very normal, uneventful, simple lives and that SHOULD be enough. Just so everyone can put things into prospective (I.E. Hnub Lis Incident), here's a comparison of FB Me would be vs. Real Me for reference.

Facebook Me: A successful single 40+ Hmong Male, with lots of friends and a home and a very successful career with a huge retirement. I am always out with friends travelling to distant places and countries. You find me partying with lots of girls and always with a drink in my hand.

Real Me: I am an insecurity 40+ male with only a handful of friends. I have cheated on a pass girlfriend and was once married and failed at it. I travel, but i stay in mediocre hotels and prefer long hikes and nature, avoiding crowds and parties when possible. I rarely drink alcohol.




 
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 11, 2021, 04:00:16 PM
Kong:  Thanks for opening up....

Facebook me===> IS me..

PH ME==> is ME....

Real me===> IS me

Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: Kong Vang on February 11, 2021, 04:13:32 PM
Kong:  Thanks for opening up....

Facebook me===> IS me..

PH ME==> is ME....

Real me===> IS me

Lol,,, you’re the exception and good for you! You once asked what type of women I liked... well, do you have a single sister?
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 11, 2021, 04:35:07 PM
Even siblings may have their own unique characteristic s and strangers similarities..  But you are moving in the right direction, being your authentic self.  In the big picture of life and lasting relationships, that is key.
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: hmgROCK on February 11, 2021, 04:36:50 PM


Real Me: I am an insecurity 40+ male with only a handful of friends. I have cheated on a pass girlfriend and was once married and failed at it. I travel, but i stay in mediocre hotels and prefer long hikes and nature, avoiding crowds and parties when possible. I rarely drink alcohol.

Hahahaha dayme!!!

Like that micheal jackson song, man in the mirror


Facebook me:   Lazy sweat pant wearing cheap guy

Real me:  lazy sweat pant wearing cheap guy


THANKS FOR SHARING!
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: Kong Vang on February 11, 2021, 04:49:52 PM
Hahahaha dayme!!!

Like that micheal jackson song, man in the mirror


Facebook me:   Lazy sweat pant wearing cheap guy

Real me:  lazy sweat pant wearing cheap guy


THANKS FOR SHARING!

I don’t know if I can believe you... this is the same guy who has 500k but is waiting for soup at the soup line??
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: theking on February 11, 2021, 04:52:54 PM
I don’t know if I can believe you... this is the same guy who has 500k but is waiting for soup at the soup line??

 ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D NAILED IT!!!

Even the new members can easily see his LIES...no wonder even his very own bromance "don't believe" him.. ;D:

I don't believe you have "$500k+".
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: hmgROCK on February 11, 2021, 04:55:13 PM
I don’t know if I can believe you... this is the same guy who has 500k but is waiting for soup at the soup line??

Don’t hate man
Im just a lazy cheap guy who got lucky

Just happen I bought a house during the lowest point of the housing crash 2008 :2funny:
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: theking on February 11, 2021, 04:59:30 PM
Living in someone else's basement doesn't = "bought a house".. :idiot2: ;D
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: hmgROCK on February 11, 2021, 05:04:41 PM
Houses is dirt cheap here
Can get a nice $50k starter home

During that 2008 housing crash
Houses were going for even more piss poor dirt ass cheap


HAHAHA

Yall people forget or something????
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: Kong Vang on February 12, 2021, 12:00:55 AM
The problem with social media is that no matter what people post, others will interpret it however they choose to.

For example, if you only post positive things that happen in your life, people will think everything's great in your life. If they find out that (omg!) you aren't always happy, they may accuse you of being fake.

If you post about negative things in your life, or personal drama, others may think you are oversharing or a dramaqueen.

Personally, I think if people go by my facebook alone, I am living a pretty good life. However, like you stated, my life in general is pretty boring. It's just a matter of how people perceive what you post. My life isn't perfect, but it's not horrible. Having said that, I'm not going to be putting my personal problems out there for the world to see.

People just need to realize that they need to be taking everything on social media with a grain of salt. However, it's easier said than done. Anyone who says they don't judge others based on social media is either lying or a saint. :D ;D

Well said and super insightful, I might add.

And yes, above all, don't post your personal moments on Social Media. I have yet to meet a couple that can say Facebook was good therapy and it saved their marriage.

Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: Visualmon on February 12, 2021, 12:14:59 AM
I met certain people that are the other way around.

Any social media: kind, extroverted, generous, talkative, unjudgmental
Real life: clingy, introverted, rude, liar, paranoid, perpetual, very judgmental
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: hmgROCK on February 12, 2021, 07:52:16 AM
Hahah @ kong

Didn’t know you were married once
Cheating <<<<< that right there is your problem

Trust and honesty
It will get you far in life
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: lexicon on February 12, 2021, 11:35:26 AM
Houses is dirt cheap here
Can get a nice $50k starter home

During that 2008 housing crash
Houses were going for even more piss poor dirt ass cheap


HAHAHA

Yall people forget or something????

Houses WERE cheap. Now I can't find a decent house locally. You're vastly overpaying if you're looking for anything built after '98.
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: hmgROCK on February 12, 2021, 11:43:07 AM
Houses WERE cheap. Now I can't find a decent house locally. You're vastly overpaying if you're looking for anything built after '98.

I got lucky.... bro
Once in a lifetime
Just sooooo happen
THERE WERE ALL THESE CHEAP HOUSE
WHEN I WAS COMING OUT OF AGE


pureeeeeeee luck ;D O0
Don’t hate
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: ProudLao on February 12, 2021, 12:59:11 PM
Houses is dirt cheap here
Can get a nice $50k starter home

During that 2008 housing crash
Houses were going for even more piss poor dirt ass cheap


HAHAHA

Yall people forget or something????

Lots of foreclosures at that time. I would not buy any property from WI lol

How did this topic become about housing? Lol
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: lexicon on February 12, 2021, 01:10:34 PM
Lots of foreclosures at that time. I would not buy any property from WI lol

How did this topic become about housing? Lol

My bad.

Online Persona: Extrovert, confident and social.

IRL: Introvert, self-doubting and I'd choose a book/movie over drinks/beers.

I'm old now.
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: hmgROCK on February 12, 2021, 01:31:09 PM
Lots of foreclosures at that time. I would not buy any property from WI lol

How did this topic become about housing? Lol

Your boy ROCK.... got lucky
Coming of age during the housing crash of 2008
All these cheap ass nice houses around me going for dirt cheap

DON’T HATE THE PLAYERS
HATE THE GAME ;D ;D
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: Cali Guy on February 12, 2021, 05:20:06 PM
My concern is not with what people post or what content they choose to put on Social Media... the problem lays in how ordinary people are lead to believe what they see are the normal.

I.E. The Father of Yasmi's son is a distant friend of mine and I can assure you she did not always looked the way everyone sees her now. Pre-surgery, pre-make up, pre-photoshop Yasmi, most guys would not give her the time of the day. This, in my opinion, it the trap of Social Media. Whether on purpose or not, ordinary people are lead to believe everyone is having a fantastic time, drinking Hennessy and partying every night. Everyone is driving new cars and vacationing in Vegas in perfectly timed photos. What people don't see is the dirty and messy house, the arguments/disagreements or the empty bank accounts, and that is the real danger in my opinion.

I always thought the present day Yasmi actually looked inferior to her pre-surgery days but regardless of her appearance, she is somewhat creative. I wouldn’t mind seeing her strumming a guitar to one of her love songs but I don’t know if she can play. I would pay good money to see that in person instead of the skanky after parties she has hosted.

On another note, logical beings see social media with a view of skepticism.
Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: DuMa on February 15, 2021, 09:20:11 AM
You want the truth?  Maybe it is better if we can not handle the truth. 

How about we trade facebook account?   You write about me and I write about you.  In this way, facebook is all about facts, the real you.

So who writes your own facebook entries and all them glitters?  Like war, only the winners can brag about it.  The loser can not cuz they all died or hide in shame. 

Title: Re: Facebook Me vs. Real Me
Post by: Visualmon on February 16, 2021, 06:35:40 AM
Can we all do orgy and call a day?  ;D