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Hmong Stories / Re: Hmong marriage rules/superstitious

« on: May 23, 2013, 05:57:39 PM »

so me and my fiance are planning to get marry after my high school this year but then my sister just got marryed like a week ago, can i still get marry bt just not do the wedding after a year or would it still  be bad omen ? help please

Nope, there's no proof that it will be "bad omen" when siblings married at the same year or different year. Don't stress about nothing. But if you can't shake off that belief, do what you believe in for your own peace of mind.

why marry after high school?  that's so soon. 

I agree but this is Hmong, many are used to getting married young even much younger than typical high school graduate age. I'm glad more and more are adapting to the ways of the west (finish college, find a job, then married).

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Marriage within same clan

« on: May 22, 2013, 01:56:47 AM »

And since there are so many women in this world I suggest we legalize polygamy again. Would you agree with me?

Good luck finding enough women willing to participate in that caveman practice. The Hmong women here are empowered and know they can get real help when needed, not like the oppressed ones in Laos and other oppressed societies. I've posted that question a couple of times to women that claimed to be super traditional and in support of all Hmong practice and customs of the Hmong culture and all you hear is crickets  . Therefore, as I've said, good luck finding enough women to be apart of polygamy. Not gonna happen in this great land imo.

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Two Wheel Forum / The street 125 is Back! The Grom could be a very fun bike in heavy S.F. traffic

« on: May 18, 2013, 09:19:43 PM »

or any other big city  :

The 125cc Grom is small, practical, and from the Hooning on the Grom
Honda enlisted the services of a stunt rider to demonstrate the fun factor on its new mini street extreme motorcycle, the 2014 Grom.

The little four-stroker features a 124.9cc air-cooled, Single-cylinder engine mated to a four-speed transmission. Though power output has yet to be listed, the same motorcycle was launched overseas under the name Honda MSX 125, MSX standing for Mini Street Extreme, whose Single charted a claimed 9.7 hp @ 7000 rpm and 8 lb-ft of torque @ 5500 rpm. An inverted front fork set out at only 25-degrees of rake and a small 12-inch, 120mm wide tire should make the bike very rider-friendly, as should the 29.7-inch seat height and claimed 225-pound curb weight.

http://youtu.be/I2FNtbgXgPA

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Two Wheel Forum / Re: Just made my reservation for MSF course!

« on: May 13, 2013, 01:05:07 AM »

I'm pretty damn excited! Signed up for June 5th, so about 3 weeks from now. It was a promise to myself if I was able to lose 40lbs I would finally sign up. Cant wait!

Good for you  ! Do share your experience and keep us updated on your progress...

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Confession of an adulteress

« on: May 13, 2013, 01:00:53 AM »

Guys have affairs mainly physical reasons.  What are your thoughts?

If we are talking about traditional Hmong "guys", they feel it's their right to date and/or even marry other women/girls even after their first marriage based on what's accepted in the Hmong society traditionally. It's a good thing we live in this great land where Hmong women can fight those backward primitive practices if they choose to.

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Confession of an adulteress

« on: May 12, 2013, 12:58:24 PM »

Why do people cheat?

Because they want to.

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Two Wheel Forum / What a nice Shovelhead!

« on: May 12, 2013, 01:51:20 AM »

Ken Tabata from Osaka steps up to accept the award for first place in the Custom/Modified class for his incredible 2010 Tavax 2011V at the 2013 Quail Motorcycle Gathering.

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Marriage within same clan

« on: May 09, 2013, 06:20:24 PM »

coincidentally, I have a cousin who has the same last name as his wife, they married, had 4 children, and are financially successful and happy.  all of the children are healthy, spiritually grounded, and are intelligent.

then I have another cousin who was intelligent, ambitious, and outgoing, - who was forbidden to marry his same last name girlfriend and ended up committing suicide.

Damn, sorry to hear about that unneccessary tradedy. He should have just man up and live his life...

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Marriage within same clan

« on: May 08, 2013, 08:01:56 PM »

I have an aunt and uncle, first cousins, different last names who married each other and had 10 children. The children all have mutant deformities and health problems.

Just thought I share.

Yep. Which why it makes zero sense that Hmorons accept blood related family members marrying but not non-blood related strangers with the same last name marrying.

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Marriage within same clan

« on: May 03, 2013, 03:08:51 PM »

How can you not see that it's wrong? It's wrong when you let your son marries your sister's daughter or vice versa. It's wrong when you don't want your children to marry someone who simply carries your last name but are thousands year old generation from you. It's wrong when you living in the year of 2013 but practice primitive belief that make your children feel old fashion, backward, and shameful. It's wrong when your children don't want know and be associated with it anymore. It's wrong when you do the opposite of what can be proven right in the lab. It's wrong when you know you are wrong but don't change it. For all of these, I don't think anyone needs to present any compelling reason to fix it.

Many aspects of the Hmong culture is good but the bad aspects such as 'bride-nap, men being allowed to marry multiple wives or date other women even after marriage, trading money for human, grandpa marrying underage kids, alcohol poisoning of minors at weddings, blood family members marrying each other, non-blood related strangers with the same last name can't date/marry, ...gotta go. As I've said, those that want to continue practicing those primitive practices, suit yourself but I'm not.

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Marriage within same clan

« on: May 01, 2013, 04:21:21 AM »

You can't just simply go and marry someone with your last name at the moment, because society doesn't approve it. If you violate the norm, you will live in a shameful life as many of you have mentioned. We need to make the change, so people can do it with confidence and without being fear of losing their face.

Sorry, that passage seems to apply to many of the weak minded people that would do things just to please others even complete strangers instead of doing what they feel is right for them. Again, there's absolutely nothing wrong and more importantly illegal about two strangers with the same last name marrying each others. Those that want to carry on that primitive practice, suit yourself...I and others that feel the way I do definitely won't!

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Marriage within same clan

« on: April 29, 2013, 05:33:32 PM »

Just do it.  I strongly encourage marrying one's sister is the best wife in the world.  None to exist.

Hmong have already come close to it. To those Hmorons, it's not ok to marry a stranger with the same last name that has zero biological connection but it's ok to marry a biological blood related family member. 

And according to some, the same last name can't marry belief was adopted from the Chinese so it wasn't even a Hmong practice to begin with...

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Two Wheel Forum / For those that gotta have brand name but don't want to pay alot...

« on: April 19, 2013, 10:22:10 PM »

$500 Shoei Qwest Ethereal going for $250:

http://www.motorcyclegear.com/street/closeouts/helmets/shoei/qwest_ethereal_motorcycle_helmet.html

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Is the Hmong culture dying?

« on: April 13, 2013, 12:22:10 AM »

What Sandy and Koua said about "change" and "evolve" is right on the money. Since they are both young and born in the States, I can also see that they will be "judge" by others especially Sandy. My aunt was one of the few women Shamans in Laos and Thailand, and she really had to prove her worth. From what I remembered, she is just as good as the men based on what she received in return from the people she provided Shamanism service to.

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Is the Hmong culture dying?

« on: April 12, 2013, 07:11:45 PM »

It's lost and we have lost on the cultural war since the Hmong minds are HIGHLY backward. I agree what the French people say to us because WE ARE BACKWARD!

If you say so. Although I agree that some aspects of our culture could be "lost" due to adaptation over the years, and some Hmong are still "BACKWARD", I don't think all is lost. I noticed more and more Hmong are moving forward because I see and hear fewer and fewer bride-napping, polygamy, man treating woman like dirt because he bought her, bride head price, kids marrying kids, married men having the power to date other women, and adults marrying kids cases thanks to adaptation. Sometimes, change is good and needed to create better harmony for all as well as reduce the BACKWARD mentality that some can't seem to shake off but I can see the good aspects continuing to be around for a long time to come. Adaptation/change/modification applies to pretty much every culture. Sometimes it is necessary to change in order to move forward.