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Relationship => General Relationship => Topic started by: Crapcom on February 21, 2017, 05:53:39 PM
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So my friend have been talking to this new girl for about 2 weeks, and went on two dates with her...he really like her...But the thing is that when he ask her about how she felt..
about him....her reply is that she haven't felt anything and their relationship will have to wait and see how it goes?...
what advise should i give to my buddy? that this chick is just using him?....she is divorce and have 2 kids.....no job...
I haven't been in the dating game for 10years since my marriage, so not sure about how much advise i can give...to a brotha...
I told him that she has no job and is a staying home mom....no education..... he deserve better....caus e looks like she is playing hard to get...
My buddy is a college grad and is single and is making pretty good $$$.....Don't know why he decide to chase after a some man's trash....
Any brotha and sister out there, give some advise ;)
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So my friend have been talking to this new girl for about 2 weeks, and went on two dates with her...he really like her...But the thing is that when he ask her about how she felt..
about him....her reply is that she haven't felt anything and their relationship will have to wait and see how it goes?...
what advise should i give to my buddy? that this chick is just using him?....she is divorce and have 2 kids.....no job...
I haven't been in the dating game for 10years since my marriage, so not sure about how much advise i can give...to a brotha...
I told him that she has no job and is a staying home mom....no education..... he deserve better....caus e looks like she is playing hard to get...
My buddy is a college grad and is single and is making pretty good $$$.....Don't know why he decide to chase after a some man's trash....
Any brotha and sister out there, give some advise ;)
Hard to say as there's not much info about the girl so depends mainly on the unknown variables. Perhaps, she just want to take it slow due to a bad experience in her past? ???
Going by the minimal info, I don't think she's using your friend. If she was, I don't think she would reply:
"her reply is that she haven't felt anything and their relationship will have to wait and see how it goes?"
That reply sounded pretty honest as I'm not sensing any playing game tone.
More importantly, going by your tone of:
"Don't know why he decide to chase after a some man's trash...."
You simply just have a problem with her. Just because one is divorced, doesn't necessarily mean he/she is "trash"...Glad your "buddy" doesn't share that perception.
"advise"?
Leave your friend alone as he's a grown man. It's his life so if he's good with it, do nothing...
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IDKW your friend is thinking but if she has baggage, she will always have some drama her way. She is a mom after all. Her kids above anything else is and will always be first. (mom mentality in most cases) Is your friend willing and able to be second? If not get out now.
Two weeks of knowing one another? If feelings are mutual, even two weeks is not enough time to bond :2funny: perhaps a generalization of getting to know one another, yes but to bond and fall in like/love, no.
In another sense, you state she is divorced, maybe, just maybe she doesn't want to move too fast and risk another mistake. Got to view it from all sides and not just one side.
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tell the homie to pick up his game, sounds like he's heading into the friend zone.
asking a girl how she feels about him is like asking her how was the sex, when he's just finished in two minutes. a man should never ask how a girl feels about him, she shows it by the subtle hints, like answering his calls, text or messages and most importantly making time for him. i'd be more afraid to know, cause she might not want to let go.
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in a way it seem like he's heading toward the direction of friendzone for her....but glad i posted this...and see how how his relationship turn out 8)
will keep everyone posted. ;D
but do thanks for everyone advise :), and yes...i'll let him made his own decision even it turn out to be friendzone and not BF/GF LMAO :2funny: <--but sadly he may just hurt himself....
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I don't think she's playing hard to get. 2 weeks is too short of a time to be expressing your feelings or knowing how you feel towards someone. I'd say your friend should just enjoy getting to know her and definitely take her out on more dates.
Us girls don't normally come out and confess our likings for a guy but you can bet we will drop hints left and right. ;)
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I don't think she's playing hard to get. 2 weeks is too short of a time to be expressing your feelings or knowing how you feel towards someone. I'd say your friend should just enjoy getting to know her and definitely take her out on more dates.
Us girls don't normally come out and confess our likings for a guy but you can bet we will drop hints left and right. ;)
Agree with that assessment and it's true in most cases from what I've seen and experienced. I've only had sex on the first date a couple of times in my years of dating. Most of my dates required a few get to know each other better moments before sex....
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If he likes her then let him do his thing. She might be good for him.
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As humans, sometimes we just can't help but chase after certain things in life that is out of our zone.....i don't know why. Anyways, maybe your buddy just need that little hit of the chase to really know and see what he need instead of what he think he want? Also, new exposure and different surrounding could be of help to him.
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Maybe he's what this song is saying:
! No longer available (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UHvGpxOMN6U#)
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Agree with that assessment and it's true in most cases from what I've seen and experienced. I've only had sex on the first date a couple of times in my years of dating. Most of my dates required a few get to know each other better moments before sex....
So you're saying a girl will give it up when she likes you? ???
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So you're saying a girl will give it up when she likes you? ???
Some will when they like you and/or they are horny as girls have needs too. Then there are some that won't "give it up" despite the fact that they like you for personal reasons. And as a man, you got to respect that too if you also like and care about her...
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sup guys....
so the stories continues..... O0 O0 O0
So my friend went on his 4th date already...so it's been a month now...... of knowing her and 4 dates with her....he asked her again...
her reply was that it's too soon and she is not ready......... .............. .............. .............. .............. .............. ..... :knuppel2: :knuppel2:
he kept taking her out to eat and buy her stuff......... .............. .............. ...and after a month.....and 4 dates...the answer is still not ready..... :o :o :o :o :o
looks to me like he's in a Friendzone.... .state....he mentioned that all she does everyday is stay home...and doesn't work...cause she have no car....and she goes out often with her friends to drink....and clubbing...... most of the time from Thursday through sunday.....
so should I :knuppel2: :knuppel2: :knuppel2: :knuppel2: My friend and tell him to get out of that stupid relationship.. .seem like she is using him.....and he's not getting anything in return........ ..Nigga just waisting his $$$$ on a Love that is not even true after knowing a person for a month....and they still said they need more time....
WTF is that???? I talked to girls for 2-3weeks and they do give honest answer right away if i ask!!!!!....
so should i slap his ass and tell him to get the duck away from those kinda girl... not to be mean but......but his girl have no life......no education....n o work...but all she does is partying..club bing...and drinking with friends...and think her life is awesome...even she is broke as duck... prob need to slap some manners to my buddie.....
what do you guys said?
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Some will when they like you and/or they are horny as girls have needs too. Then there are some that won't "give it up" despite the fact that they like you for personal reasons. And as a man, you got to respect that too if you also like and care about her...
I'm curious, those girls you got some from the first date, how far did you guys get in terms of a meaningful relationship?
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sup guys....
so the stories continues..... O0 O0 O0
So my friend went on his 4th date already...so it's been a month now...... of knowing her and 4 dates with her....he asked her again...
her reply was that it's too soon and she is not ready......... .............. .............. .............. .............. .............. ..... :knuppel2: :knuppel2:
he kept taking her out to eat and buy her stuff......... .............. .............. ...and after a month.....and 4 dates...the answer is still not ready..... :o :o :o :o :o
looks to me like he's in a Friendzone.... .state....he mentioned that all she does everyday is stay home...and doesn't work...cause she have no car....and she goes out often with her friends to drink....and clubbing...... most of the time from Thursday through sunday.....
so should I :knuppel2: :knuppel2: :knuppel2: :knuppel2: My friend and tell him to get out of that stupid relationship.. .seem like she is using him.....and he's not getting anything in return........ ..Nigga just waisting his $$$$ on a Love that is not even true after knowing a person for a month....and they still said they need more time....
WTF is that???? I talked to girls for 2-3weeks and they do give honest answer right away if i ask!!!!!....
so should i slap his ass and tell him to get the duck away from those kinda girl... not to be mean but......but his girl have no life......no education....n o work...but all she does is partying..club bing...and drinking with friends...and think her life is awesome...even she is broke as duck... prob need to slap some manners to my buddie.....
what do you guys said?
Are you sure this is not a girl you're trying to court?
4 dates and a month is nothing. I'd say give it half a year to a year before your friend asks where the relationship should go. Why the rush?
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more like...my buddy is asking her to be his girlfriend.... why would he have to wait half a year to a year for her to said yes???
that is stupidity.... :idiot2:
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I'm curious, those girls you got some from the first date, how far did you guys get in terms of a meaningful relationship?
Meaningful enough to where we were introduced to each other's families as well as attended a few family functions...
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more like...my buddy is asking her to be his girlfriend.... why would he have to wait half a year to a year for her to said yes???
that is stupidity.... :idiot2:
when your man ain't got the skillz to go after her heart, tell him to drop his pants! if she's down for the dirtay, he ain't got to ask such nonsense question. if he's rejected at this point..he should crap com on her!
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yup!!! it's time for me to slap him out of his fake love!!!! prob going to smack his head this week....and wake him up. :knuppel2:
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Well consider it from her position. She's got kids that she has to protect. How can she give him a definite answer about their relationship after only two weeks? Relationships take time and patience, and she's got her kids to think about too. If he's too impatient to actually date her (you know, dating, where you learn about the other person and see how you guys fit together in a relationship) then just tell her that.
you mean like this...well Ash, we been seeing each other for over 4 years now. we've posted numerous time together, even exchanged some sexual contents/comments...however, i am fairly disappointed that you take no acknowledgemen t of me, so I will have to let you know, we cannot be lovers. I'm sorry, if I broken you heart, you are a great girl and I know you will find someone else or hopefully, nooneever! good bye, ;D ;D
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:2funny: Yes exactly like that :2funny:
Four years??? Commenting back and forth with sexual innuendo?? Koj yog leej twg na? :D
...es tus hlub, koj tsis nco kuv lawm lov? koj muaj amnueasia lawm lov? kuv twb yog tus koj nej hnub npau suav pom ne?
side note: crapcom, should have your friend learn a lesson here and get his girl on the hook, by dumping her first! :P :D ;D
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@ ZDN....think his girl put him in the friendzone and is using him for eating out......They're not even dating....just chatting on phone for 1 month...and went out 4 dates....
still the girl said she's not ready to answer him yet......
I'm my mind..my buddy got play....nigga prob spend close to 200$ take her out to eat and gas money traveling from his town to visit her...about 3hr away...
time to slap some manly manners to him....Why chase after some mans trash...who's remaimed trash...why not chase after others mans treasures :D
He did said all he gotten from her is just quick hugs....nothin g more...not even holding hands...since she she mentioned she's not ready for dating....
so it's time to...haha Slap him out of his retard relationship.. . :knuppel2: :knuppel2: >:D >:D >:D >:D
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So my friend have been talking to this new girl for about 2 weeks, and went on two dates with her...he really like her...But the thing is that when he ask her about how she felt..
about him....her reply is that she haven't felt anything and their relationship will have to wait and see how it goes?...
what advise should i give to my buddy? that this chick is just using him?....she is divorce and have 2 kids.....no job...
I haven't been in the dating game for 10years since my marriage, so not sure about how much advise i can give...to a brotha...
I told him that she has no job and is a staying home mom....no education..... he deserve better....caus e looks like she is playing hard to get...
My buddy is a college grad and is single and is making pretty good $$$.....Don't know why he decide to chase after a some man's trash....
Any brotha and sister out there, give some advise ;)
Sounds like your friend's interest is about learning to ride a horse and nothing more. No women in the right mind would just give up their dignity without having the men at least make some effort into the relationship whether they're divorced with kids or not.
If your friend has $, he needs to just head overseas where it's legal. He can have all the fun he wants. Meaningful relationships requires lots of effort & sacrifice. Such efforts should be directed toward someone worthy of receiving it. In his case, the mistake is on him, not her whether she plays hard to get or not. Divorced women aren't so easy to get...
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@ ZDN....think his girl put him in the friendzone and is using him for eating out......They're not even dating....just chatting on phone for 1 month...and went out 4 dates....
still the girl said she's not ready to answer him yet......
I'm my mind..my buddy got play....nigga prob spend close to 200$ take her out to eat and gas money traveling from his town to visit her...about 3hr away...
time to slap some manly manners to him....Why chase after some mans trash...who's remaimed trash...why not chase after others mans treasures :D
He did said all he gotten from her is just quick hugs....nothin g more...not even holding hands...since she she mentioned she's not ready for dating....
so it's time to...haha Slap him out of his retard relationship.. . :knuppel2: :knuppel2: >:D >:D >:D >:D
dude, can't hate on the foxy chick who out smarts the hunter. she shouldn't be judge regardless of her status (divorced, jobless, MILF). she's not asking for support nor is she stealing from your homie. sounds like he's willing to give freely but slow at playing the game...$200ish, isn't anything to worry about...it's the traveling and not getting it. :idiot2: :2funny:
on the point of trash and treasure...one should be careful of their choosing...as for the prize, one is guarded the other is free for all (first to claim, first to get).
advice for the homie, when traveling the distance...res erve a hotel room, it's the excuse to sleep but use for the boom boom! O0
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:2funny:
I think I know who you are now.
bonzure, my sweet appetite! O0 i think that's how you say it. :D ;D
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LMAO!!!!
think....prob just tell my homeboy to get an escort chick and problem solve..... :2funny: :2funny: :2funny: :2funny: :D :D :D :D
he's wasting his time with the MIlF with 2 package.... >:D >:D