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General Category => General Discussion => Topic started by: Special_K on March 13, 2018, 11:29:02 AM
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I just bought a new car a month ago and my 1st car has just been sitting there. The 1st car is a Honda Civic, 2nd is a small SUV but takes premium only. I thought about keeping the 1st car as a gas saver cause nothings wrong with it, but recently my younger brother has been driving it more and more and moved all his other stuff into. Don't get me wrong, I love my brother and wouldn't mind but he has 3 cars sitting out on the lot and he thinks now that I have the civic just sitting around he doesn't need to fix his cars. He has a small family, my nephew and sister in law. They are young and irresponsible. All his cars look like bumper cars, his first car I bought him, he totaled the 1st day driving to work... I mean if he was responsible I wouldn't mind. He just isn't and I'm too much of a softy to say NO to him. ARGH
I've got a buyer for $4500.00 but am so attached to the car, I couldn't let go of the title.
Sell? Be Mean? Say No?
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just my opinion.
sell it if you don't feel the need for it. your brother will just have to deal with it.
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don't sell it, jut borrow it to me. :-* ;D
regardless of use, it is always good to have a back up car.
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Time to say good bye.
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Why did you buy a car that you don't need?
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No sell. Allow brother to drive under a conditional that it is still your car. He drives so he better pay for wear n tear n dmv tags n insurance but it is still your car until you come up n be detach from it.
Only time will cure your love for the car that you once fawk in. Tell me about it. I still have mine.
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YOu know..
I would never sell my cars..
But I do know what you are going through.
I have a couple of brother's..
One wrecks all his cars...
and the other just don't really know how to care for cars and they end up breaking..
So as I left my cars at my mom's place becuase I don't drove them, I thought about letting them my car but then I was like no, I'm not. Why? becuase I know if I let them use it, I'll never see them agian.
I bought my youngest brother a car... and it's wrecked, it's not his fault per say.. but it's still wrecked and when I went back to look at the car, before it got wrecked, it was not looking in nice condition.
I say keep your car, you bought it, paid for it.
If you can bare to part ways with it, i guess.
Not me! My cars unless they are stolen or wrecked, I'm keeping them forever.
I like alternating cars and switching them every other day or week driving them.
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just my opinion.
sell it if you don't feel the need for it. your brother will just have to deal with it.
Def, that's how I feel. He will have to deal with it! Guess what he did when I told him I was selling the car? He fixes one of his cars last night. WTF!
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Sell it, otherwise you're just enabling your brother's irresponsible behavior. He'll be okay.
You're right! I've been enabling him forever. Maybe i'll just be mean and just say NO. Got to learn how to say no. Argh.
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don't sell it, jut borrow it to me. :-* ;D
regardless of use, it is always good to have a back up car.
That's what I'm thinking. A back up car. It's in fine condition, no rust and it's never given me issues.
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Time to say good bye.
It's so hard! My first brand new car after college. So many memories.
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Why did you buy a car that you don't need?
I live in MN. Small car equals get stuck in 10-12 inches of snow. = tow truck = $$$$, so I decided to get an SUV and I mistakenly got into a Lexus and fell in love.
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YOu know..
I would never sell my cars..
But I do know what you are going through.
I have a couple of brother's..
One wrecks all his cars...
and the other just don't really know how to care for cars and they end up breaking..
So as I left my cars at my mom's place becuase I don't drove them, I thought about letting them my car but then I was like no, I'm not. Why? becuase I know if I let them use it, I'll never see them agian.
I bought my youngest brother a car... and it's wrecked, it's not his fault per say.. but it's still wrecked and when I went back to look at the car, before it got wrecked, it was not looking in nice condition.
I say keep your car, you bought it, paid for it.
If you can bare to part ways with it, i guess.
Not me! My cars unless they are stolen or wrecked, I'm keeping them forever.
I like alternating cars and switching them every other day or week driving them.
The poster - I agree. I would love to alternate cars. Especially if it'll help me save on gas. HmmMM.. I think I just need to learn how to say NO and be mean.
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No sell. Allow brother to drive under a conditional that it is still your car. He drives so he better pay for wear n tear n dmv tags n insurance but it is still your car until you come up n be detach from it.
Only time will cure your love for the car that you once fawk in. Tell me about it. I still have mine.
Duma - Honestly if he was half as responsible there would be no question now. The 1st car I every bought him, he wrecked it same day. WTF. All his cars, wrecked. I just can't trust him enough. I left for out of town and he drove the car all weekend not even informing me and the car was a mess...
I would love to keep it. This shouldn't be this hard.
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Duma - Honestly if he was half as responsible there would be no question now. The 1st car I every bought him, he wrecked it same day. WTF. All his cars, wrecked. I just can't trust him enough. I left for out of town and he drove the car all weekend not even informing me and the car was a mess...
I would love to keep it. This shouldn't be this hard.
Your relationship with you blood is half azz, if you asking me.
If I know if he going to die tomorrow, the least I know what I did for him. If he wreck it again, it'll be another lesson for him. If you have no use for it, parked, consider that as being wreck anyway.
I give it away to someone who needs it. My first car was well invested in myself. Then I gave it to a cousin that went to school for it. He then gave it to his sister and now all three are college grad with one a pharmacist this coming May for graduation.
Selling it will yield you money but money will dry eventually. If it sucks your money like tags n insurance, give it away so others can babysit it for you. The car will still be in the family.
I dunno. We Viet n we are family bound first, no matter how worst they get. People can't be stupid forever.
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Your relationship with you blood is half azz, if you asking me.
If I know if he going to die tomorrow, the least I know what I did for him. If he wreck it again, it'll be another lesson for him. If you have no use for it, parked, consider that as being wreck anyway.
I give it away to someone who needs it. My first car was well invested in myself. Then I gave it to a cousin that went to school for it. He then gave it to his sister and now all three are college grad with one a pharmacist this coming May for graduation.
Selling it will yield you money but money will dry eventually. If it sucks your money like tags n insurance, give it away so others can babysit it for you. The car will still be in the family.
I dunno. We Viet n we are family bound first, no matter how worst they get. People can't be stupid forever.
actually duma, people can be stupid forever. You buy and buy and buy stuff for them and they take and take. Never caring or being as responsible for items that isn't theirs. I agree with you. If it were my sister's or my other brothers, I'd give it to them. I've given my other cars to family members and they've treasured it. Clothes, toys, gaming stations.. etc.. I've bought and given plenty my whole life. So don't lecture me on Being Viet or Hmong. I'm glad shit's worked out for your family. I guess I wasn't clear. My little brother is a spoiled self entitled brat unlike other's in the family. (largely because I've allowed him to be) prefer to drive mine instead of fixing his own. I guess telling him I was selling the car worked, because he fixed his car last night and guess what it needed? Back lights.
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It's so hard! My first brand new car after college. So many memories.
I totally understand, I had a few of those. But I knew it had to go. It’s time for new memories.
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Hob yau!
I live in MN. Small car equals get stuck in 10-12 inches of snow. = tow truck = $$$$, so I decided to get an SUV and I mistakenly got into a Lexus and fell in love.
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I just bought a new car a month ago and my 1st car has just been sitting there. The 1st car is a Honda Civic, 2nd is a small SUV but takes premium only. I thought about keeping the 1st car as a gas saver cause nothings wrong with it, but recently my younger brother has been driving it more and more and moved all his other stuff into. Don't get me wrong, I love my brother and wouldn't mind but he has 3 cars sitting out on the lot and he thinks now that I have the civic just sitting around he doesn't need to fix his cars. He has a small family, my nephew and sister in law. They are young and irresponsible. All his cars look like bumper cars, his first car I bought him, he totaled the 1st day driving to work... I mean if he was responsible I wouldn't mind. He just isn't and I'm too much of a softy to say NO to him. ARGH
I've got a buyer for $4500.00 but am so attached to the car, I couldn't let go of the title.
Sell? Be Mean? Say No?
Your car, your life, your call.... With that said, enabling can be very bad especially someone you know that is not responsible or doesn't have good judgment..
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I live in MN. Small car equals get stuck in 10-12 inches of snow. = tow truck = $$$$, so I decided to get an SUV and I mistakenly got into a Lexus and fell in love.
well...since you got into a lexxusess...yo u should sell the crappy old car. wasting money on insurance, tabs and sometimes maintenance is a waste of money..not only that but it's a prime target for vandalism or auto theft and if it happens, value of car goes down. get rid of it. sell it to Duma.
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I just bought a new car a month ago and my 1st car has just been sitting there. The 1st car is a Honda Civic, 2nd is a small SUV but takes premium only. I thought about keeping the 1st car as a gas saver cause nothings wrong with it, but recently my younger brother has been driving it more and more and moved all his other stuff into. Don't get me wrong, I love my brother and wouldn't mind but he has 3 cars sitting out on the lot and he thinks now that I have the civic just sitting around he doesn't need to fix his cars. He has a small family, my nephew and sister in law. They are young and irresponsible. All his cars look like bumper cars, his first car I bought him, he totaled the 1st day driving to work... I mean if he was responsible I wouldn't mind. He just isn't and I'm too much of a softy to say NO to him. ARGH
I've got a buyer for $4500.00 but am so attached to the car, I couldn't let go of the title.
Sell? Be Mean? Say No?
Somewhat in the same boat. Not wanting to see my first car go to anyone else, but still don't want to keep it in the family because my brother can not take care of a car...
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UPDATE:
Last night like little teenagers, my g-friends and I packed the car and went for a long cruise. Ended up at a buddies house in the boonies and drank a bit like we didn't have to be adults the next morning. It was his birthday! This morning I'm paying for it! These old achy bones can't be up all night anymore.
OHhH and I decided to sell the car. Going to the DMV this afternoon!
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I'm in need of a car. Donate it to me :)
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Should have seen this earlier! O0
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Oh, well.
Should have seen this earlier! O0
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Yes! When you have a newer car girlfriend, you will not drive that older car anymore. I bought a new car a few years ago and have not even ride/touch in my older car since then.