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General Category => General Discussion => Topic started by: lilly on December 17, 2018, 11:28:54 AM
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Way back when we didn't know any better, we may have thought we didn't want anyone who looked less than a model. But now that we are all a little older and wiser, what are the must have qualities that you look for in a significant other?
Another way to ask the question is, if you're just starting to get to know a guy or a girl, what are the "turn off" signs or "turn on" signs that you look for?
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That's the word: significant.
Way back when we didn't know any better, we may have thought we didn't want anyone who looked less than a model. But now that we are all a little older and wiser, what are the must have qualities that you look for in a significant other?
Another way to ask the question is, if you're just starting to get to know a guy or a girl, what are the "turn off" signs or "turn on" signs that you look for?
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That's the word: significant.
OK... but... what are the qualities? What are the turn offs and turn ons? For example, are hairy legs a deal breaker for you? How about short hair or purple hair? How about not grabbing for the check on the first date? Would those things bother you? Etc.
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Way back when we didn't know any better, we may have thought we didn't want anyone who looked less than a model. But now that we are all a little older and wiser, what are the must have qualities that you look for in a significant other?
Another way to ask the question is, if you're just starting to get to know a guy or a girl, what are the "turn off" signs or "turn on" signs that you look for?
I like a conservative woman.
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my list is too long.
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I think y'all single should try everything that you can handle.
Like have you try being a gold digger?
I almost hook up with one. She had 5 pho houses in southern California but my friends be laughing at me that she's a tad old.
Peer pressure I know but I gotta let her go. I already had plans to marry her for money like she gives me 5k a month to blow but I would take that cash and hide it up them mountains and tell her that I cooked it all and need more.
Then go to jail ob purpose so she can divorce my azz then go up the mountain to get my loot and spend it with my East coast girl that she doesn't know. Isn't that crazy? Mistress and myself are scammers but this story does not have any dead people like as the husband, poison her azz to collect the million dollar insurance and sell all of her pho houses and cash out with the mistress.
Cot dam what I think may scare me.
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FYI not looking. Just expressing my type:
Cleanliness is important so of course someone w/ good hygiene. Next, I prefer someone more "reserved" meaning he doesn't seek to be the life of the party but has a certain charisma, kind soul (good heart, a man w/ integrity...)a Christian, good chemistry with....likes to travel, ambitious(goal oriented), educated, isn't afraid to express his feelings/love, respects women, health conscious,listens to other's opinion/ideas, and can balance between two world (Hmong and western)
Turn off: likes to party, drinks, traditional
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I like a conservative woman.
I should clarify this. I like a conservative woman, which is different then wacked out psycho chicks who thinks they're conservative because they belong to the far right and thinks conservative means stubborn as shitt and hateful of others who know they're crazy but don't understand their form of crazy. O0
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FYI not looking. Just expressing my type:
Cleanliness is important so of course someone w/ good hygiene. Next, I prefer someone more "reserved" meaning he doesn't seek to be the life of the party but has a certain charisma, kind soul (good heart, a man w/ integrity...)a Christian, good chemistry with....likes to travel, ambitious(goal oriented), educated, isn't afraid to express his feelings/love, respects women, health conscious,listens to other's opinion/ideas, and can balance between two world (Hmong and western)
Turn off: likes to party, drinks, traditional
Plus a guy who is not shy about photocopy his balls and send it to you.
If you like it, we have a match.
If not #metoo
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I should clarify this. I like a conservative woman, which is different then wacked out psycho chicks who thinks they're conservative because they belong to the far right and thinks conservative means stubborn as shitt and hateful of others who know they're crazy but don't understand their form of crazy. O0
In other words, must vote for Joe Biden 2020
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I think y'all single should try everything that you can handle.
Like have you try being a gold digger?
I almost hook up with one. She had 5 pho houses in southern California but my friends be laughing at me that she's a tad old.
Peer pressure I know but I gotta let her go. I already had plans to marry her for money like she gives me 5k a month to blow but I would take that cash and hide it up them mountains and tell her that I cooked it all and need more.
Then go to jail ob purpose so she can divorce my azz then go up the mountain to get my loot and spend it with my East coast girl that she doesn't know. Isn't that crazy? Mistress and myself are scammers but this story does not have any dead people like as the husband, poison her azz to collect the million dollar insurance and sell all of her pho houses and cash out with the mistress.
Cot dam what I think may scare me.
Cot dam I replied to the wrong but similar thread. She was asking if her husband remembers her food of choice like pho ccuz that was their first meal when they met. Where that thread at? Did it get merge?
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Plus a guy who is not shy about photocopy his balls and send it to you.
That's a turn off.
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Cot dam I replied to the wrong but similar thread. She was asking if her husband remembers her food of choice like pho ccuz that was their first meal when they met. Where that thread at? Did it get merge?
Oh fawk, I need to lay off the drugs. I'm losing it. Early sign of diment
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That's a turn off.
I will make a note of that for things not to do. Ball pix is the in cuz dic pix is the out.
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Oh fawk, I need to lay off the drugs. I'm losing it. Early sign of diment
Agree.
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As no one is perfect there are some qualities that is a must have and there are those that I can work with. The list would be endless but here are a few examples...... ..
Must have: (at least at average level)
Average looking with a pretty normal and level personality, good hygiene and stay in shape.
Average cook, love kids, good family values, family oriented.
Respect herself, her body, hard working.
Normal temper, big heart, supportive, caring.
Preferred Hmong and able to speak Hmong. (Not being racist here. You put a awesome Hmong girl up against any other awesome race/ethnic at about the same/similar quality and I'll take the Hmong girl over them all).
Auto Turn off:
Like to smoke, drink alcohol, gamble, cheaters, greedy, murders, drugs, a egotist and the opposite of all the must have above and more…….
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Already did... and so thankful. O0
Ditto O0
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my list is too long.
Yes, but are you able to give us some of your major turn offs/turn ons?
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Here are my turn offs/turn ons.
Turn offs:
- Bad hygiene
- Dishonest
- Lazy
- Irresponsible
- Narcissist
- Selfish/self-absorbed
- Inconsiderate/not thoughtful
- Rude/mean
- Narrow views/narrow-minded
- Inability to communicate
- Not willing to learn
- Not willing to listen
- Uncompromising
Turn ons:
- Good hygiene
- Honest
- Good heart
- Hard worker
- Responsible
- Cares about me
- Cares about kids
- Good role model
- Funny
- Cares about doing the right thing
- Considerate/thoughtful
- Reads
- Willingness to learn
- Plans for the future
- Able to share thoughts/ideas that are useful in a constructive/respectful manner
- Ability to communicate clearly
- Good listener
- Cares about others
- Open-minded
- Fair
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Down to earth, normal, funnie, laugh a lot, don't take themselves or others too seriously, clumbsy, dorky, quirky, cute! That's about it.
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Here are my turn offs/turn ons.
Turn offs:
- Bad hygiene
- Dishonest
- Lazy
- Irresponsible
- Narcissist
- Selfish/self-absorbed
- Inconsiderate/not thoughtful
- Rude/mean
- Narrow views/narrow-minded
- Inability to communicate
- Not willing to learn
- Not willing to listen
- Uncompromising
Turn ons:
- Good hygiene
- Honest
- Good heart
- Hard worker
- Responsible
- Cares about me
- Cares about kids
- Good role model
- Funny
- Cares about doing the right thing
- Considerate/thoughtful
- Reads
- Willingness to learn
- Plans for the future
- Able to share thoughts/ideas that are useful in a constructive/respectful manner
- Ability to communicate clearly
- Good listener
- Cares about others
- Open-minded
- Fair
All that and he has to be taller than me when I have heels on......but that was just a preference. ;D
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All that and he has to be taller than me when I have heels on......but that was just a preference. ;D
Haha, OK. ;D
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Haha, OK. ;D
I believe most women would prefer someone taller as well. :2funny: :D
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I believe most women would prefer someone taller as well. :2funny: :D
This was one of my requirements prior to my husband. We met online, so I fell for him before we even met face to face. :D
One requirement I never thought of before until I dated my husband, because he showed me how important it is: he must have some kind of respect for his parents and siblings. If he doesn't there's going to be little chance he would respect mine too. Glad my husband is who he is. Since we been together forever, we didn't start out with all the awesome qualities right off the bat, but we grew some of those over time.