PebHmong Discussion Forum
Relationship => Marriage & Family Life => Topic started by: Believe_N_Me on March 27, 2022, 03:00:02 AM
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My mom says that even if your husband isn't meeting your expectations, you should have a big heart and never leave the marriage. That way when you're both old, your husband will turn around and see how loyal and loving you are. He will then right his wrongs and really love you.
My aunt says that if your husband isn't good now nor meeting your expectations, you should let him go because there is no guarantee that he will change when you two are old. Better to get rid of him now rather than wait and still be disappointed.
I have seen a variety of outcomes in marriages. I have seen husbands who were no good at the beginning but slowly matured and became great family men. I have seen husbands who actually regressed. They started out as good but devolved into cheaters, addicts, immature, etc. I've also seen husbands who stayed good throughout the marriage, and those who stayed bad throughout the marriage.
What I gather from this is DON'T MARRY YOUNG. It is too hard to predict how a man will turn out if you marry him at a young age. Marry them when they're older because their character is pretty much set by that time.
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Both have forgotten that you shouldn't marry in the first place if there's no love involved.
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Women these days only rely on security and status from a man beside of his moral standard. smh
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Both have forgotten that you shouldn't marry in the first place if there's no love involved.
Love from whom? What is love?
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Women these days only rely on security and status from a man beside of his moral standard. smh
I think it's been for all times, not just nowadays.
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Love is that insatiable thirst in you for the other person whose absence weakens you and drives you crazy, making you lose focus on all things and whose absence makes life no longer meaningful.
From whom? From the very person you are to wed.
Love from whom? What is love?
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Love is that insatiable thirst in you for the other person whose absence weakens you and drives you crazy, making you lose focus on all things and whose absence makes life no longer meaningful.
From whom? From the very person you are to wed.
I've had that feeling before.
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What happened?
I've had that feeling before.
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What happened as in "describe the time I had the feeling" or "where did it go?"
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Yeah. Where did it go? What caused it to go?
What happened as in "describe the time I had the feeling" or "where did it go?"
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Tsis paub explain.
Maybe life?????
IDK, it's always there and can be invoked.
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Es ua cas ho tsis sib tau no na. Vim niam txiv tsis kam los yog yus ho muaj lwm yam lawm los yog nws ho cia li hloov siab lawm? Yog ab tsi tiag?
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No one is perfect, seriously. As long as the guy loves you, truly love you then that's already a winner. So, don't listen to your mom or aunt ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
How will you know? He thinks you are most beautiful in the morning AND ladies that's our worst: morning breathe, puffy, crusty eyes, spiky hairs, need I say more ;D ;D ;D ;D
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The narrator (our story) is right. Don't ever trust anyone especially your relatives or your peers to make decisions for you.
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No one is perfect, seriously. As long as the guy loves you, truly love you then that's already a winner. So, don't listen to your mom or aunt ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
How will you know? He thinks you are most beautiful in the morning AND ladies that's our worst: morning breathe, puffy, crusty eyes, spiky hairs, need I say more ;D ;D ;D ;D
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But not Cha Eun Woo. He goes to sleep looking like this. The question is how does he look waking up?
I don't have the exact clip of him getting ready for bed but this is how he looks while sleeping.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/jJ9t81L6nmE (https://www.youtube.com/shorts/jJ9t81L6nmE)
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The narrator (our story) is right. Don't ever trust anyone especially your relatives or your peers to make decisions for you.
But what if you're lost and confused?
And since when did Visualmon have more insight than me? :BangHead:
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But what if you're lost and confused?
And since when did Visualmon have more insight than me? :BangHead:
You should have discernment to figure out the person before tying the knot.
That's because I have numerous experiences by feeling and seeing a lot of craps through relationships.
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You should have discernment to figure out the person before tying the knot.
That's because I have numerous experiences by feeling and seeing a lot of craps through relationships.
I try, but sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants.