her husband's parent(s) instead.
It's comical if you paid for your wife. I didn't. I'm smarter than the OG. Here's what worked for me.
My girlfriend was a nurse at that time and she makes good $$. When we decided to get marry she wrote a check for me for $4,000. I deposited the money to my checking account. So the token cost is $5,000. I paid her parent $1,000 + $4,000= $5,000. Her dowry was over $4,500 cash plus all the usual pillows, cookware, diapers, etc.
So at the end I really paid about $0.00 but I did invest alot of time, energy, courtship, bribe cousin's time, and great drinking...
To date, we are as happy as any Hmong couple. And she makes more than I do...of course, I took 51% of child rearing and schooling the kids. Hehehha...