you have to kill cows and tie it to the person whos passed to take with them and the family is to "SHAW" for good luck and fortune. and the sons, husbands are to "OUA CHAO" to families that donate. and everything has to happen in order or else it can go very wrong. you may not know but theres always someone watching to make sure that all the occurances happpen in EXACT order for the person to RIP.
this is why i say and believe that poj niam hmoob have to respect her husband because... with this concerning funerals and hmong shrines in house, poj niam ua tsis tau.