some ntshai, ntshais "scare, scare" of the drum and qeej.
at a christian funeral, i too 'scare, scare' of the 'helluva god songs'.
maybe i'm just scared because i haven't been to a funeral or scared to understand the hmong church way or the hmong animism way of mourning the dead.
understand death, then you can live life.
if you're really a chicken at a hmong animism funeral, look at it this way. if the dead happens to cause you death. your spirit will rise and be in the same spirit realm as it. you can then beat the shit out of it and scare him with your bad self. as humans, you can hurt him. in death, you can hurt him.
so why be scare?