ST, my family won’t put my brother in that situation. We know we love her and won't ask him to choose but it’d be nice if she just wasn’t so selfish. I can handle hahainess, shadiness, laziness, rudeness etc. but I can’t deal with a woman who’s going to put one of my loved ones on the spot to make us seem like we are second best just so she can be center of the universe in his eyes. Sighs. Nothing but a wasted headache.
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Went to see Confessions of a Lazy Hmong Woman over the weekend with my sisters. Although the play wasn’t amazing, it did have some humorous parts that kept me entertained. One of my favorite scenes came at the very end. The lead had asked her niam laus (not blood related though) what her name was and she replies..”Kuv twb yog Niam something something ne”. Then the lead goes, “I meant the name your parents gave you.” And then the niam laus thinks and thinks and she can’t figure out what her name used to be and frowns. She then goes on to tell a story of when she had entered a prize drawing somewhere and they drew her raffle and kept calling her name to come claim her prize. The niam laus had forgotten that part to her. Eventually she came to realize they were calling her name. That part really hit me deep. I guess Hmong women lose a little part of their identity when they get married. The whole world starts to refer to them through their husband’s name and they become….. I hope I never forget who I am.
My nose is stuffy today. It’s annoying trying to breathe through one nostril only. Oh well, I’m going to enjoy my lunch.
