Ladylionness, Jesus turned his mother and brothers away. Jesus set the example for us to walk like Christians but shouldn't our family come first? Or shouldn't his family come first?
God comes first. Always.
Took me a long time to understand this too b/c I have always thought that my husband should come first.
I have learned over the years that when you have learned to submit your whole self to God and put him first, everything else fall into place... how?
In regards to family... what did God teach us? Love your neighbor as you love yourself... who is your neighbor? Anyone standing next to you... be it your family, friends, co-worker, stranger as in the parable of the Good Samaritan...
In regards to parents... the Bilbe teach that we are to honor our parents... and here is the kicker... this is the only commandment that has a promise attach to it... that if you honor your parents, you will live a long life.
In regards to husbands, the Bible is adamant that wives are to submit themselves to their husband... regardless of the husband's actions or lack therefore... that the wife cannot wait until the husband is doing his husbandly role before she give him the respect...
In regards to wives, husbands are to love their wives as they love their own bodies.... how do they love their bodies? They don't go around punching themselves (unless they are truly crazy), the don't starve their bodies, the hardest thing for a human being to do is to take his or her own life... self-perservation... and that is how he is to love his wife... and he is to do it b/c it is a commandment from God... not b/c his wife is being respectful and submissive but b/c God says so.
And you can go down the line, through all your relationships.
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As for children, the book of Proverbs says for parents to love their kids and not provoke them to anger...