LHG,
Same here, I had been following your posts for about two years now. Your blogs had got my interests and I became a member of PM. First off, I want to thank you for your wonderful story telling of all the things in your life for the past couple of years. I, myself, love to write and tell stories. Unfortunately, most of my great works had been devour in relationships past. But I can appreciate such work... when I see it!
After unsung_hero recent reply to your post, I am find it compelling and part of my duty to finally add something and respond to the wonderful stories
that you had shared and provided as a gift to us.
I too was once married and divorced in mutual matter... Pretty much the same situation as what you went through, no one really understood and all my
relatives and friends can't understand why two people so loving, caring and with full understanding about life cannot work it out. Some of my closest friends had tried to reconcile our differences and had us try to get back together, but it never worked out. There were no cheating, argument or even one foul word said on either side during the marriage. Unfortunately, it was like that poem/proverb, if you love someone set them free and if they come back it was meant to be.
Unfortunately, our future plans of getting back never came to fruition... I had also vacationed in Laos back 2008 with some reluctance, but my good friend had offered a refund if I didn't enjoy it. Well, I spent the first week regretting it and spent the time jogging, reading, listening to music and just enjoying the surrounding. On my second week, I was lucky enough to meet my wife. We hit it off, like it was something that was meant to be... I had never imagine that I would meet someone over seas with my education, life's experience, belief and notion of marrying someone that younger then me...
I don't know if you believe in God or a higher being, to me, it's was a surreal happening of events that had enlighten my true understanding of the "meaning of life" after going through my own ordeal. My eyes and heart had open to previous prejudgement and prejudice paths/beliefs that I thought would never happen in my life as if it were some unforgotten road that I had missed. I can honestly tell you that the adjustments, living under rumors and self expectation has nothing or no account and worth in the life that you want to shape. Neglect those negative things, just hold on to the true values that you want to uphold and practice as we meander through this life.
Take heed and paid no such attention to such... The most important thing for you should know... is your future with May. My only advice to you is that you had found something special, make the most out of it. I had been officially married to my wife for 4 years now, we have the biggest treasure of our life and that is raising my 3-year-old son. Everyday, he reminds me to continue to hold onto all those things that I believe in most and make sure I don't stray from them, because his future depends on it.
My wife got her citizenship just this last year and we are planning to re-visit Laos this coming new year. I am normally a private person like you, I believe this and know, because you write so well... I want to make sure that you know my story is also true... I just want to hint out that I am married to Lab Lauj from Nasala. Before I depart, on behalf of everyone, I want to thank you for taking the time and opportunity to share your story with us. Just to let you know, we are 110% behind you and wish you and May the very best in your future together.
Just to answer your self questions/doubts... There are many roads to take in life, if something makes you happy and is right... Go on, take that road what are you waiting for. Your only responsibility is stay convicted to that road and make it flourish, so you can build you future on it. Take good care, God Bless and CONGRATS!!!
MnKing