Poster: People cheat because they want what they don't have (while never realizing what they've always had). Why cheat when you can be honest? If she wants to be with someone else, then she should do the right thing and tell her husband and break it off so he isn't left looking the fool.
vangkm007: I'm glad you found love with another regardless if it was a person with the same last name or not. And I do agree with your points on how flawed the ideals of Hmong culture are. However, being snide and name-calling seems a little bit under you. You seem like a person better than that.
1luv: I'm sorry to say brother but you my man are a dirt bag. The fact that you would willingly sleep with another man's wife knowing full well that she is married is pretty low. Sleeping with a cheating women is no better than being a cheater yourself. I don't care what you think you are providing but that is just plain f'ed up. You need to re-evaluate yourself if you honestly think you are doing a righteous service to these misguided women.
And to all you men and women on here who are cheating or considering cheating: Don't do it or stop doing it. Give your loved ones the benefit of doubt. Communicate. Tell them your thoughts and desires. Give the possibility of change a chance. And if all else fails, break it off. Cheating is one of the lowest forms of human nature and most people are better than that.