Where do you go when it's your family members or friends who are the primary cause of your grief? Perhaps to the mountain. Nature has a way of working its wonder with me...
I will reiterate what I said earlier, you may have to either distance yourself from these people or cut them out permanently IF they are toxic to your well-being. I understand that they may be family/friends BUT if they cared about you or your welfare, they wouldn't cause you all this pain/unhappiness.......if it's the bad type of pain/unhappiness you're referring to. I know that it's easier said than done but when a person has a breakdown (and I'm not saying you will, just speaking generally), s/he won't be good to/for anyone. You have to help yourself first before you can help anyone else.