She can't control others' actions.
You're right. You can't control other people's action. I understand what you are saying - that doesn't invite anyone to invade her sexually especially when under the influence of a substance. But isn't that why we lock our car doors, our house doors, and most of us make the decision not to go for walks at 3:00am alone? Just because you don't want to be raped while drunk, doesn't mean there aren't monsters out there waiting to take advantage of an intoxicated person. Just because I don't want someone to rob me, doesn't make me immune to robbery. This isn't victim blaming. This is pointing out the fact that when you go to a college drinking party, just because in your mind you're just there to have fun and have a few drinks, doesn't mean you won't end up with your panties missing.
This isn't the same as walking down the street and getting struck by a drunk driver. If that had happened, the intoxicated driver was there
IN SPITE of his drinking and driving, not
BECAUSE OF IT. But when you're a young woman and you go to a college drinking party, people aren't there to talk about how to play a better midlane in League of Legends or easy steps towards becoming vegan. You KNOW why people are there. Not to say all men at parties are going to rape at first opportunity. Throw in alcohol, impaired judgement, peer pressure, testosterone, voila! It's the perfect equation for something like this to happen.