Let's not put the blame on Hmong women. They've been oppressed and looked down upon for the majority of their lives and it's still happening now. How can you say Hmong men want a wife who is traditional (cooks, clean, etc.) yet he himself does not follow the old-style of being a Hmong husband? It has always been unfair to Hmong women no matter which way you try to turn the table. Hmong women have learned to see how Hmong men have used their freedom to do what they want and they want the same thing. Yet, when they get educated and work and have no time to cook and clean, Hmong men flock to Laos for innocent young ones. There is nothing right about that. You don't see Hmong women flocking to Laos to marry a Hmong man and it's probably just 5% of Hmong women who marry outside the race because maybe they don't live near Hmong people or maybe the Hmong guys they live around are just not compatible but it is still a small percentage. I bet the percentage of Hmong men going to Laos for a wife is much higher.
I wouldn't say demanding but just mentally strong. This is what our society has taught women: to be strong and in control and to fight for equality. And why not? Hmong women have to get educated and have to work. They have to deal with crappy mean people and failures and work hard to move up the ladder just like other men and women of other races. How can you expect them to be obedient and innocent when they've been put through the same storms as Hmong men (and as mentioned, other races)?
Then why complain, why not just let the stupid men go overseas? I will acknowledge that women had suffered greatly in the past and still til this day to a lesser degree of course, but you're pinning it squarely on Hmong men only. I think it's unfair. It seems White/Blacks and other ethnics know how to treat women well in your eyes. But the truth of the matter is that all women endure the same suffering, some far worst than others. And yet, Hmong men are terrible in the eyes of Hmong women.
Educated and strong? If they're educated and strong like you say, pretending to be obedient and innocent isn't too much to ask for is it?
How is it unfair for Hmong women that Hmong men wants wifes that are traditional but they them himself don't want to be traditional? Don't you women have a choice before accepting a man's proposal? Isn't up to your own interest to find out if the guy is right for you or not? Don't women see their own mistakes? Plain and simply put, the modern Hmong women feminism thinking isn't compatible with Hmong men in general. Many men has changed not like their oppressive predecessors of past. But that's not to say that there no more bad and stubborn men in every race.
The marry out of race is fairly small but they should grow higher because Hmong men are just stupid, uneducated, incompetent, abusive, rapist, criminals, alcoholics, and etc.
Regards to women going overseas to marry, who is stopping them? They have every right to do so and so why aren't they doing it more? Why do they expect a Hmong men to act meska when he's not white?