My wife's gotten fat and lazy over the years. She took her sweet time in school, got her LVN license, worked for a few months, then quit and has not worked for over two years. She's just making excuses to not find work. Even at home, she's not the wife I expected her to be. If she doesn't work, I expect her to upkeep the house, cook at regular schedule, etc. No, she doesn't do this. Bedroom and bathroom's a mess, has not picked up a mop for many years now. She makes my boys cook, clean, mop, etc. She's just like a queen. I would like her to change her ways and consider helping me with the finance by getting a job. We have no savings because we live paycheck to paycheck. She spends money like we're rich and does not realize that we have no money and she should be conservative. Sometimes I feel sorry for myself that I'm with a wife like this. Sometimes I think if I were to find someone new that I would not hesitate to jump ship. Then I think about how we first met and how much we were in love and I just can't hurt her by letting her go. So how do I encourage her to change without leaving her?