One day, you happen to go to Cali and got to visit his house. Like if he took you home to marry, or meet his parents, but you discovered that his house was ultra filty. The house itself looks like it's about to fall apart. Cracks in the walls. mold and smelly air. He had lots of dirty little siblings wearing nothing but rags, roaches all over the dark living room. Roaches crawling over the bag of rice. Kitchen floors haven't been mopped in years, toilet seat so yellow and crusty. 20 year old couch, with springs sticking out, worn out cushions. People sitting in folding chairs because there's only one couch.
Would you still be willing to marry him or get the hell out?