What qualities do you look for in a significant other?

[starchaser1989]

As no one is perfect there are some qualities that is a must have and there are those that I can work with.  The list would be endless but here are a few examples...... .. 

Must have: (at least at average level)

Average looking with a pretty normal and level personality, good hygiene and stay in shape.
Average cook, love kids, good family values, family oriented.
Respect herself, her body, hard working.
Normal temper, big heart, supportive, caring.
Preferred Hmong and able to speak Hmong. (Not being racist here.  You put a awesome Hmong girl up against any other awesome race/ethnic at about the same/similar quality and I'll take the Hmong girl over them all).


Auto Turn off:

Like to smoke, drink alcohol, gamble, cheaters, greedy, murders, drugs, a egotist and the opposite of all the must have above and more…….   

[theking]

Already did... and so thankful. 

Ditto 

[lilly]

my list is too long.

Yes, but are you able to give us some of your major turn offs/turn ons?

[lilly]

Here are my turn offs/turn ons.

Turn offs:
- Bad hygiene
- Dishonest
- Lazy
- Irresponsible
- Narcissist
- Selfish/self-absorbed
- Inconsiderate/not thoughtful
- Rude/mean
- Narrow views/narrow-minded
- Inability to communicate
- Not willing to learn
- Not willing to listen
- Uncompromising

Turn ons:
- Good hygiene
- Honest
- Good heart
- Hard worker
- Responsible
- Cares about me
- Cares about kids
- Good role model
- Funny
- Cares about doing the right thing
- Considerate/thoughtful
- Reads
- Willingness to learn
- Plans for the future
- Able to share thoughts/ideas that are useful in a constructive/respectful manner
- Ability to communicate clearly
- Good listener
- Cares about others
- Open-minded
- Fair

[thePoster]

Down to earth, normal, funnie, laugh a lot, don't take themselves or others too seriously, clumbsy, dorky, quirky, cute! That's about it. 

[tRouBLe]

Here are my turn offs/turn ons.

Turn offs:
- Bad hygiene
- Dishonest
- Lazy
- Irresponsible
- Narcissist
- Selfish/self-absorbed
- Inconsiderate/not thoughtful
- Rude/mean
- Narrow views/narrow-minded
- Inability to communicate
- Not willing to learn
- Not willing to listen
- Uncompromising

Turn ons:
- Good hygiene
- Honest
- Good heart
- Hard worker
- Responsible
- Cares about me
- Cares about kids
- Good role model
- Funny
- Cares about doing the right thing
- Considerate/thoughtful
- Reads
- Willingness to learn
- Plans for the future
- Able to share thoughts/ideas that are useful in a constructive/respectful manner
- Ability to communicate clearly
- Good listener
- Cares about others
- Open-minded
- Fair

All that and he has to be taller than me when I have heels on......but that was just a preference.   

[lilly]

All that and he has to be taller than me when I have heels on......but that was just a preference.   

Haha, OK.   

[tRouBLe]

Haha, OK.   

I believe most women would prefer someone taller as well.    

[Peachy Fish]

I believe most women would prefer someone taller as well.    

This was one of my requirements prior to my husband. We met online, so I fell for him before we even met face to face. 

One requirement I never thought of before until I dated my husband, because he showed me how important it is: he must have some kind of respect for his parents and siblings. If he doesn't there's going to be little chance he would respect mine too. Glad  my husband is who he is. Since we been together forever, we didn't start out with all the awesome qualities right off the bat, but we grew some of those over time.