wasn’t expecting detailed follow-up opinions to my opinion, but all is with good intention.
when i say “relate to” i meant it’s easier and inviting for hmong inlaws to relate/involve a hmong son/daughter in law at hmong gathering. “tuaj los vauv, los zaum pem no” or “nyab los pab peb ua hauj lwm.” it’s easier to “txib/instruct” bc they can relate to you and they expect a traditional response from you. whereas, another race spouse the hmong family feels awkward to say anything. there is no cultural expectation and that is what i mean by “relate to.”
on the matter of “i hmong sister married to hmong man and they have drama” that’s is a “stupid” couple who can’t get along issue, a human issue than cultural issue. it’s like saying i know 100 elderly hmong couples who married in laos at age 15 who are celebrating 60 yrs anniversary, but why a white couple in their first year is divorced.” or why the high husband/wife murder rate in the hmong community, but you don’t hear of the white.
not getting along is between the couples, not the culture.
back to the op’s question, “what do you think when you see...” and i see the young generation growing up despising our culture, then growing up to realizing our parents sacrifice. growing up, we wanted white names, like james, jenny, christine, tom. and now that we have kids, our kids are named timothy “muajkoob”yang. can’t seem to run away from the culture. ah, the irony, same irony as your white spouse dressing in hmong clothes at the hmong new year.